Is it me?

[Banana2015]

My Son is in infants school & is very popular. I’m in my 40’s but don’t look old, but I’m about 4-5 stone over weight because of various issues. I go out of my way to speak to everyone & always make an effort, but unless I arrange a play date I never get one suggested & im sure it’s because no one wants to be associated with the fat mum as all the rest are skinny. As everyone else gets lots of play date offers.
opinion's please, would you prefer a play date with a skinny/normal sized mum ?

OP, probably best to get this thread moved to a more active area - chat maybe?

To be honest I feel this way sometimes (also an older fatter mum). But then I do think I've always looked at things through my "fat lens" ie do people not want to socialise/be friends etc because of my appearance. It's hard not to think like that when your weight is a big part of how you identify yourself, so I feel you OP.

Maybe it's your age rather than your fat. A bunch of then are probably dependent on nicotine or alcohol or whatever. I don't feel like I have anything much in common with the younger mums at school even though I remember being in their position. I remember thinking I would have nothing in common with the older mums. Don't give up one will crack and then maybe more.

I had 'old parents' as a kid I was always embarrassed about them - now I'm ashamed I felt like that - but times have changed I know -am I allowed to say it might be the push you need

I wouldn't be remotely bothered by that. It might be that they already all know each other and are just lazy?

When I invited children for play dates I didn't really expect or want the parents to come, especially for my youngest. Unless it was a mum I was close with (about 2 of them). Also, I didn't really like play dates on school nights and only invited children my child specifically requested.