How to come to terms with infertility

[TaylorK95]

Hi everyone, I'm new to this site.

I've recently been told I won't be able to get pregnant or carry a child after a year of myself and my partner trying and recent fertility tests.

I'm struggling to come to terms with this.

The amount of emotions that are being felt are something I've never experienced.

I feel useless, less of a woman and person, angry, depressed, bitter, jealous, guilt, despair. You name it, the list goes on. It feels all consuming.

I'm also feeling guilty as I feel I don't have the capacity to be as supportive as my partner is to me at the moment due to the dark cloud that is consuming.

Has anyone got any advice or just kind words that can help.

Unsure how to get through this.

Hey op can I please ask what the issue is stopping you? I ask this as someone who's been where you are and managed to fall pregnant after 2.5 years and some help from treatment

It takes time ti come to terms with.
Over time you can imagine life a different way.
Counselling may help if you can afford it.

We eventually decided that being parents mattered more than genetics, and we looked into adoption. Though it isn't for everyone and you need time to grieve the children you can't have.

It sucks. 20 years on I still occasionally miss the birth children I never had.