To feel modern life is too much?

[JamSandle]

I know in many ways modern life is easier. But it also feels like your brain can never switch off.

I have a job I love but we have kicked off into a really busy period that will last months.

My brother is struggling to find work.

There are medical appointments etc (all on phone - feels like you have to manage it all).

Gone through a breakup so don't have the support of another half.

I've always heard the term rat race and God its so appropriate. We're all running desperate for money (that gets you less far than ever) just to keep on track. I stopped after a busy day yesterday and thought...what is the actual point of this system?

We know mental health issues and stress are off the charts. It's like people are squeezed for everything they've got just to make ends meet and then....its over? Or you find yourself too sick or traumatised to enjoy your time?

Is there a way we can make this all easier? What do you do?

YANBU at all

The demands increase every month

’But X/Y only takes a few minutes..’ but when you have 50 tasks that ‘only take a few minutes’ it’s time that isn’t even there

I can’t cope right now tbh, my brain is melting down from my endless responsibilities, chasers and things I’m expected to stay on top of

I feel exactly the same and am comforted by your reply but also hope you can feel better.

I just don't understand how people manage all this long term and don't break down. There's such a link to stress and sickness.

I feel like im living in a crisis mode...running from task to task. And like you say...the list of things just seems to grow.

I also had a friend call me last night who feels the same. She's working, married, has kids but said the chronic stress od keeping on top of everything is making her not want to be here anymore. Is it supposed to be like this?

You’re not wrong. The super rich want to be richer and have no end point where they will say “Okay, this is enough”. So the people are kept as busy as possible.

I like the phrase “Self-preservation is a form of resistance”.

I agree!

I honestly don't no why we make it so hard for ourselves !

Me and my husbands dream is to buy some land and live off of it.

Eat when we're hungry, sleep when we're tired. Just love and live and be

Most of our day to day tasks are so pointless.

My mum has recently been diagnosed with terminal cancer and has been told she has a couple of months left until it's all over for her. She's 56. Definitely has me questioning the meaning of life, why are we here ? What are we doing?

Everyone looks so miserable and fed up and stressed

It's not what I want.. the rat race is game I don't want to be a part of ..

We buy into the system with our souls,

you can't buy back your time or health.

I get paid £12.18 for every hour of my life

Is that all im worth..... NO!

Just to add

My motto has always been work to live but with the cost of living I am living to work which ive always said I'd never do but that choice has been taken away from me by the system

A shitty system that doesn't even work anymore

100%! I'm work to live too but even working to live is being made harder. Just had enough of it all. Especially knowing a small group of humans make it difficult for the rest of us for greed.

So I have been in a miserable situation since Covid. I mean it had its issues before and then I took action but Covid scuppered all my plans. I'm a real sticker at things, but things came to a head last year and since then I have been on a slow decline downwards. Every challenge Ive tried to beat, tried every support available etc. Some of which has helped and some hasn't.

In the end I came to an epiphany that the reason I feel low like this is because I am not living life in line with my values. Modern life hasn't made it easy, high costs etc. One thing I've done is accept that my energy is finite. I can't live where I am now with the job I have and the life I have. It's not working for me. I can't do it all. So I've decided that I'm going to change one thing, but that one thing has so many positive benefits.

I don't know, I think literally all that matters in life are health, wealth, and relationships. I don't mean being rich, I just mean knowing that you don't have to work until you drop dead. But equally having some health to enjoy it all. And if I had to pick the number one thing I would say its relationships.

Where I live at the moment is very isolating so the one thing for me is that I've decided to move somewhere that has more of a community. That means making some compromises, but I'm really sure it's a good decision.

I agree about relationships. I think that's a big part of why I feel so low and defeated. My relationships has just ended.

Life is what you make it and unfortunately it's encouraged these days for people to weaken themselves which is unfortunate when one can't cope with normal life events.

All in the name of "mental heath", there's this illusion that life is harder for many people when in fact it's never been easier to live a good life if you want it.

I'll be honest with you, if there wasn't the awareness about mental health there would be vastly more criminal damage and general crime. I think you are talking from a position of power and privilege.

wickerlady I think you need to define what you mean by ‘good life’

I've been struggling lately but I'm blame a bereavement and health issues within close family for some of how I'm feeling.

I think it doesn't help that we've lost our sense of community. Families are broken into segments - children in childcare from babies, children in school until 18, parents working full time, pensioners in care homes.... we need eachother and close family bonds and we need that within a wider supportive community. Many of us are struggling alone and you can't afford to live on one wage now so it feels relentless.

Agree tumbleweed we need each other. We need to be irritated and love and feel loved by each other. We are now all living loNely divided lives. Posting on social media and watching you tube instead of playing boring bored games or doing the washing up together. It’s the little, silly things, that make us whole.

P.s, I’m sorry you are having bereavement and health issues. Again, being together during these times helps so much.

I can’t work because I’m ND and my energy levels are unpredictable but usually I’m exhausted. It’s even worse for those of us who can’t be part of the system because we’re a burden and it would be better for the system if we weren’t here. I receive no financial help whatsoever. I could attempt a minimum wage job and become ill enough to receive help, but I’m not going to do that.

However, even if I was well I wouldn’t want to be part of it. I wouldn’t sell most of my free time just to survive. For many years I’ve been dreaming of living in a van or buying a narrow boat and a few weeks ago I did buy a van. I don’t live in it yet but it makes me feel more secure knowing that I could. Who knows, I may buy a boat in the future if I’m well enough. I know most people are not lucky enough to be able to escape the system.

However, even if I was well I wouldn’t want to be part of it.

But would you expect other people to be part of it to provide you with a civil service, medical care, military defence?

Unfortunately many of us have to " sell our free time to survive". And work when we are exhausted. How do you manage with not working, or receiving any financial help?