I’ve posted in the anxious teens group as well but it seems a little quiet at the mo.
how do your help your older teen when they have rigid thinking? She seems to get stuck on the moment at times. We try and give her control over things and choices but sometimes things just are as they are and we have to go with it.
they have social anxiety but much improved recently. Have seen a great psychologist who worked wonders.
However they can show signs of rigid thinking which seems to them create low mood. An example would be yesterday when we had a treat planned and afterwards needed a quick snack before heading home in the car for a drive of about 2 hours. None of us wanted a large meal as we’d already had a restaurant meal at lunch and it was really hot. Dd lovesm&s food so we suggested we grab drinks and bits from there which they were more than happy with. All was good then we went to sit in a really pleasant open space with seating and they just said I don’t like it and refused to sit down. They couldn’t give us an explanation- it was large and we were sat away from others. There were no large groups of teens which would have been an issue in the past. We sat down to eat and she just stood up on her phone and refused to eat. We quickly finished and went back as planned.by the time we got back to the car she was ok again. We didn’t want to eat in the car as it was so hot and it’s a brand new car that we are trying to keep nice. She understood these factors.
i find it really hard as she can eat out in busy restaurants and attend really busy concerts at stadiums without issue. These things just seem to put a dampener on our days out. You never know when it’s going to happen and she switches back so easily when she is ready.
any advice