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RichNHope1619 · 07/06/2024 18:13

My adult daughter who is 28 years old has been struggling mentally for years
. She was molested at 14 by my niece's husband, she didn't disclose this to me originally because she said she knew that the family wouldn't believe her.
She was raped anally at 16
When attending high school she started to self-harm mostly superficial

She graduated high school a year late due to to several residential treatments in Hs..
She was chronically depressed anxious
Fast forward to 2024, she has never had a job started college but couldn't complete it she doesn't have a driver's license and has had 12 suicide attempts her last one was last October.

She's currently in therapy which is EMDR with a professional therapist she is losing weight she has gone from 270 (10/2023 ) to 260 11/2023) to now 6/7/2024 ( 219) I've seen her throw food away and she goes to the showers after meals. She does sneak on the scale often when I've mentioned it to her bc her pants are almost 2 sizes too big ) even when she has on a belt it is noticeable that she's Lost the psych ward last year said she hadn't eaten a full meal since her admission at their faculty they obtained a court order consult for a feeding tube and even said she needed residential eating disorder treatment because she wasn't going to comply with their recommended treatment. She ate a little they released her she hasn't been back to their faculty they won't take her anymore I thought she was seeking attention but considering that she doesn't know that I know this leaves me to believe she might truly be in trouble ( Does she need residential treatment? She is on state insurance )

I know she wants to get better but her trauma is truly hindering her and that's not even half of the trauma she's been through

PSA *I have had access to her medical records but she has revoked any access that I had and no one else in the family has access ..

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Eyesopenwideawake · 07/06/2024 18:17

I'm guessing you're in the States? Has she talked to you about wanting to lose weight (in a sensible way)?

RichNHope1619 · 07/06/2024 18:20

No, I'm in the USA
She has not said anything about losing she will deny that she's even lost.

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RichNHope1619 · 07/06/2024 18:23

She doesn't know that I've been in contact with providers or maybe she does and that's why she revoked access. Theres a lot more I should have added its so much

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Eyesopenwideawake · 07/06/2024 18:26

As she's an adult it has to be her decision to seek help, unless her life is in danger. If she is willing to talk to someone (which I guess she is, given that's she trying EMDR) she could have a chat with Shannon Price, a colleague of mine, who works with both physical and mental health issues.

https://shannonpricethecontrolsystem.com/

Shannon Price, The Mind Mechanic

Mental Health directly affects physical health. The CONTROL method creates rapid and positive change in the way you think, feel and behave giving YOU the power to remove any blockages and limiting beliefs that hold you back, putting you back in charge...

https://shannonpricethecontrolsystem.com

RichNHope1619 · 07/06/2024 18:28

She has a weight tracker I've seen journals of food and her intake she's thrown them away she sneaks out to the side of the house with a trash bag to throw away food in the early mornings ( I have a ring camera ) she has cooked but thrown it out in trash she cooks a lot but I never see her eat it if its eaten scrapes are left on plate

Today she hasn't eaten I think she ate last night@ 10 pm its almost 1 pm and she came looked in the fridge then closed it that was 2 or3 hours ago

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RichNHope1619 · 07/06/2024 18:31

How will I know her life is in danger? The weight loss concerns me and knowing she attempted suicide less than a year ago scares me to know that she might be thinking of it again last time she was smiily and bubbly before the attempt then just did it we had no idea

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RichNHope1619 · 07/06/2024 18:57

that she has gone down a lot from 270 to 219

I know she's bigger she's bigger yes, but her behaviors are very concerning she is bigger but her behaviors are concerning I believe she does vomit meals In addition to everything else

Should I wait until she's under 200 to be concerned... I want to call her therapist but I don't think she can tell me much..

If she continues to lose and remain in these behaviors I fear she will die given the secrecy she's displaying and denying

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RichNHope1619 · 07/06/2024 19:01

I don't know why the forum did that
She's bigger but with the loss, she maybe vomiting as well

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RichNHope1619 · 07/06/2024 19:03

Her trauma dates are approaching soon

She's definitely going to harm herself at this rate

I want to put her somewhere but I can't afford it state funded programs are not the best

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RichNHope1619 · 07/06/2024 19:07

I'm going to reach out to a lady she's been talking to from our church she talks to her a lot and will only reach out to her

I'm going to see if this lady knows more about this and whats she's been observing

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