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Supporting DH with mental health

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namechanged908577395 · 05/06/2024 16:05

Name changed for this. Need some advice on how to support DH with mental health problems.
For context, he has been having severe self confidence issues at work since his beloved DF died about 3 years ago. Around the same time he changed careers and we became first time parents. Since then he has been feeling extremely anxious and paranoid that he isn't performing well and everyone hates him at work even though there is no proof for that. He is super nice to everyone and does his job to an acceptable level but dragging himself to work every day because he has no motivation. He interviewed for a different position but got rejected. It can obviously happen to anyone but he has been using that as an excuse criticize himself to the point that he doesn't deserve any job because he is stupid. I think he is also feeling the pressure of being a dad.
He is a great husband and dad, very responsible with money, pulls his own weight at home. On paper we have a great life but I feel extremely sad seeing him depressed day in and out not enjoying life. Currently he is on talking therapy but not sure how much it is helping. I know it's a process but I really want to do something to support him. I try to listen and hold his hand when he is talking about his feelings but I also feel helpless. I want us to enjoy life together, we love each other a lot. Did anyone experience something like this before? Any advice much appreciated.

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Eyesopenwideawake · 05/06/2024 16:48

How was his relationship with his dad and his mum? Any siblings?

namechanged908577395 · 05/06/2024 18:14

Eyesopenwideawake · 05/06/2024 16:48

How was his relationship with his dad and his mum? Any siblings?

They were very close. He says he is missing speaking to his dad about serious stuff, particularly work. He has an older brother but they don't get to catch up much. No issues, he just lives far away and is very busy

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INeedAnotherName · 05/06/2024 18:25

You support him by encouraging him to seek, and continue to seek, professional help. Whether that's different forms of therapy or medications is up to the professionals. Dont fall into the trap of trying to fix him, you can't. He has to want to do it.

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