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Burned out and failing

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Zombieof3 · 23/05/2024 18:44

Hi everyone,

I apologise in advance for the length of this post, I cannot blame anyone for not reading it all.

Me and my partner have three kids, ages 12, 6 and 8 - one of which has ALN and is in an ALN school. We both work full time, I’m mon-fri and he is doing 4 days a week of 12 hour shifts. We are exhausted and it’s safe to say we’re failing. We’re massively behind with our bills - went to CAB last week and they’re giving us help. I’m constantly missing appointments for my children because we cannot keep on top of them.

The house is an utter pigsty, embarrassingly so but I’m so drained. People ask well what do I do on my days off or what my partner does and all I can say is we’re constantly playing catch up but can never ever keep up with anything. How do people manage work, appointments, extra curricular activities for the kids, let alone any chances of going out or socialising.

I’ve just finished work, drove an hour home, collected kids from childminder. Came back home and chucked on two frozen pizzas for the kids as it’s already gone 6pm. Clothes need washing, I need a bath/shower. Should be reading with the children but probably won’t get around to it because I can barely keep my eyes open.

my partner is feeling exactly the same and in all fairness he does a lot more than me. I just don’t know what to do because I feel like I’m failing before I even start

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Ilovedogs1 · 24/05/2024 11:10

Hi. Sorry no magic answer but sounds like you've got a lot on your plate. Sending hugs. Xx

Zombieof3 · 24/05/2024 19:00

I’m just so absolutely exhausted and it’s the kids I’m letting down. I can barely keep my eyes open, so as per usual I’ve given the kids their iPads and they’re occupying themselves.

I don’t feel like I can keep going on, I’m feeling so drained. I really want a nice soak in the bath but that’s too much energy, so I’m just lying in bed trying to not fall asleep. This doesn’t feel healthy at all. I’ve had my bloods done and apparently I’m good to go.

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