Depression after loss of a parent

[OneChirpyPeer]

Hi,

Can I ask how depression from the loss of a parent impacted your relationship? My partner has disappeared to some extent since he lost his parent last year and I'm trying to understand it.

Badly. I would suggest he approach Cruse for counselling.

It’s tough. I went the other way and hid my depression for 18 months. On the surface I looked like I was coping well, sad at times but doing alright. When no one was around I was crying, wanted to run away etc etc. but I got pregnant a month after my parent passed and so that kept me from going anywhere.

I ended up on antidepressants and saw a cruse counsellor. Best thing I did.

I have tried to encourage this but I'm not sure if it's being taken. He doesn't stay to sleep at our home anymore, doesn't often text me and doesn't seem to want affection. I want to try and be there but at his own pace. His mother's birthday has just passed so I think that has been a big milestone. @Pinkypup

I have tried to encourage this but I'm not sure if it's being taken. He doesn't stay to sleep at our home anymore, doesn't often text me and doesn't seem to want affection. I've suggested us to not be together but he hasn't taken it. I want to try and be there but at his own pace. His mother's birthday has just passed so I think that has been a big milestone. @MerylSqueak

How long ago did their mother pass?
is it the first birthday?

So they passed end of July/start of August last year. Yeah this is the first birthday she has been gone.

When my mum died it was sudden. I changed my life as why not. I wasn’t thinking straight and needed distraction. House move and put up with shitty behaviour from my now ex, but DP at time.

I was angry and lost. Exhausted as didn’t sleep great. It hit me 6 months later. I needed to be a recluse for quite a few months to recover.

firsts hit me. At times I want to call her and can’t. It’s a massive adjustment. I disappeared and became angry and quiet and submissive.

Thank you @Tiredgrumpyhormones it's really appreciated for you to hear what you went through. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm not posting this to be selfish I just want to understand it, I guess to an extent.

My ex switch off from me and the children. He became resentful if my parents, it was very difficult and we didn't survive it. Other major issues so that wasn't the only one.
I had every sympathy for him but just couldn't reach him.
Good luck.