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Can't talk

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strangethedreamer1 · 12/05/2024 22:55

I think I've been slowly slipping into a high anxiety very low depressive state over the last few weeks. I've always struggled with mental health and just life in general.

Anyway I'm really struggling to talk at the moment, like physically get the words out. My partner was that been trying to talk to me today like all day, just because he cares, wants to understand, be there, we've always spoken really well but today I just can't get the words out, it's like I say them in my head but can't actually physically say them. So much going around in my head right now it's like it's not allowing me to say anything because for whatever reason that I couldn't say because there's so much going back and forth in my head I don't even know what it all is.
I don't even know if im making sense of or what I want from this tbh.

Has anyone been the same or can help me make sense of it or how to get out of this.
It's been one thing after another with life and honestly I feel like I've given up. My confidence has gone, my self esteem has gone, I'm feeling so insecure and anxious all the time.

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IbisDancer · 12/05/2024 22:59

Maybe say what would comfort you instead? So things that calm you down and cheer you up? A cup of tea and a cuddle? A walk in the park? A game of Mario Kart?

You will be able to talk when you are ready. When you can’t talk, that is time to focus on self-care. Help isn’t just someone to talk to, it can be someone to hold your hand, make your favourite food and just be with you.

CognitiveBehaviouralHypnotherapy · 12/05/2024 23:27

You sound like you have a lot going on. Be kind to yourself. Let your partner know what’s going on and make sure he knows what he can do for you (even if it’s to go you some space or just sitting with you).

Sometimes we prefer to express ourselves non verbally. can you write? Or just scribble, draw, move.

it sounds like you want an outlet for everything that’s going on in your head?

DeadbeatYoda · 13/05/2024 19:02

Your writing is articulate. I know it's not always practical but why not write afar you are going through. You need support. You are clearly at the end of your tether and you need kindness, understanding and loving support.
You could also show what you have written here your GP. I think you're depressed, @strangethedreamer1
All the best, I hope you find the understanding and support you need to recover.

cherryassam · 13/05/2024 19:04

When I’m really struggling to express what’s going on in my head to my DH, when I’m very anxious or panicky mainly, I type in the notes app of my phone and show him. Not in any ordered prose or anything but just my thoughts as they come into my head. He reads it whilst sat next to me and responds out loud usually. It works well for us - I also get that feeling of thoughts going so quickly in my head and it’s almost like my mouth is glued shut and I can’t open it.

Octavia64 · 13/05/2024 19:14

Yes I have had this.

It's known as selective mutism (selective as in doesn't always happen not as in you are choosing it).

It's an anxiety response.

www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/selective-mutism/#:~:text=Selective%20mutism%20is%20an%20anxiety,untreated%2C%20can%20persist%20into%20adulthood.

I have cards that I show to people that explain it.

Octavia64 · 13/05/2024 19:17

This is the card I use

stickmancommunications.co.uk/product/selective-mutism-card/

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