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Will I always have anxiety

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Lambriniwages · 02/05/2024 19:55

I'll try to put this as short as I can.
For many years I had awful luck with neighbours I could name it all , drugs, parties, slamming doors , dog being left outside all night to bark , list goes on. It's had such an impact on my mental health , I went from being happy , content at home etc to a nervous wreck for as long as I can remember. (Moved and had it again)

I relocated so we could afford detached as I was on edge it was crazy. I know you cant control outside noise (which is what I'm about to say) but it has helped massively that noone is invading my space , I get more good days than bad

But now I have triggers , dog barking mostly .
It's frustrating for me as I know my home life here is so much better and it's not a constant but I can't shake off this anxiety about here we go again . Touch wood it hasn't even been that awful I just can't help feeling anxious and waiting for something to happen . I'm on medication too.

Any help or tips would be great please be kind I probably sounds nuts to some lol.

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Helplessandheartbroke · 02/05/2024 20:39

You don't sound nuts op. They were clearly scum bags. I would have rang rspca but that's another thread. How long have you been in your current property?

Eggmoobean · 02/05/2024 20:41

It will take time to settle OP. I had this with a previous neighbour when I lived In a ground floor flat. Their child would actually let themselves into my home by the back door and help themselves to crisps and snacks (they were not in need!). It left me anxious and feeling invaded and took a few years for me to shake that off after I moved .

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Lambriniwages · 02/05/2024 20:42

Helplessandheartbroke · 02/05/2024 20:39

You don't sound nuts op. They were clearly scum bags. I would have rang rspca but that's another thread. How long have you been in your current property?

Thanks for your reply that was the old neighbours I had re the dog , I called the RSPCA and they responded with if he's got shelter and food , water nothing we can do call a dog warden. So I did and didn't do anything.
This is more about the after affects as it's left with anxious over certain noises , it's so frustrating. Current neighbours only the odd normal bark now and then I know I wish it didn't affect me.

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Lambriniwages · 02/05/2024 20:44

Eggmoobean · 02/05/2024 20:41

It will take time to settle OP. I had this with a previous neighbour when I lived In a ground floor flat. Their child would actually let themselves into my home by the back door and help themselves to crisps and snacks (they were not in need!). It left me anxious and feeling invaded and took a few years for me to shake that off after I moved .

I've been here seven years tho that's the thing we had noisy neighbours move opposite us and they were awful noone was happy with them living there , thankfully they've gone and the neighbours are so much better. Wish I knew how to get a handle on it 😥

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Helplessandheartbroke · 02/05/2024 20:47

Yes sorry I gathered it was old neighbours. Poor dog. It sounds like ptsd but I'm not a doctor. Have you spoken to yours?

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Lambriniwages · 02/05/2024 20:50

Helplessandheartbroke · 02/05/2024 20:47

Yes sorry I gathered it was old neighbours. Poor dog. It sounds like ptsd but I'm not a doctor. Have you spoken to yours?

That's ok it's probably alot to digest lol yeah it's definitely PTSD unfortunately they do like to just put you on medication which I am taking and have for a while now . I had a chat with a doctor but it wasn't for long felt rushed. I just need to find some techniques it's just knowing what esp when the panic sets in

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Eyesopenwideawake · 02/05/2024 21:51

When you have something like a noisy neighbour, or barking dogs or even a (hugely annoying) wind chime next door it becomes an emotional rather than a physical disturbance. Lots of people live next to busy roads, railway lines and airports and learn to tune out the noise because it's not important and there's nothing they can do about it. But if you think it's something that is 'personal' or intrusive it can become unbearable.

There's a part of the brain called the Reticular Activating System and it's job is to filter out what our mind has decided isn't important and bring to our attention what is - it's why we can sleep through a thunderstorm but the sound of a baby crying (or a vomiting cat!) can wake us in an instant.

Please consider therapy - remedial hypnosis or EMDR to 'reset' your emotional reaction to everyday annoying noises. Once the emotional link is broken you won't hear them anymore.

Helplessandheartbroke · 02/05/2024 21:53

I too was going to suggest being referred for therapy. It's currently helping me with other struggles to yours hence different types of therapy available

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Lambriniwages · 03/05/2024 09:18

Eyesopenwideawake · 02/05/2024 21:51

When you have something like a noisy neighbour, or barking dogs or even a (hugely annoying) wind chime next door it becomes an emotional rather than a physical disturbance. Lots of people live next to busy roads, railway lines and airports and learn to tune out the noise because it's not important and there's nothing they can do about it. But if you think it's something that is 'personal' or intrusive it can become unbearable.

There's a part of the brain called the Reticular Activating System and it's job is to filter out what our mind has decided isn't important and bring to our attention what is - it's why we can sleep through a thunderstorm but the sound of a baby crying (or a vomiting cat!) can wake us in an instant.

Please consider therapy - remedial hypnosis or EMDR to 'reset' your emotional reaction to everyday annoying noises. Once the emotional link is broken you won't hear them anymore.

You hit the nail on the head there , I know it's not personal but the anxiety tells me , this will get worse and that's what the problem is with my brain. Strangely enough I find thunderstorms calming I mean what is that about . Other noises don't really bother me and it's always at night that it's troublesome. Definitely because of past neighbours where it was really bad.

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Eyesopenwideawake · 03/05/2024 09:55

@Lambriniwages There's no problem with your brain, I promise! It's just that particular part of your subconscious mind that's telling you "this will get worse" needs to get a reset. It's both possible and relatively quick and easy to do it. Have a look at my AMA.

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Lambriniwages · 03/05/2024 09:57

Eyesopenwideawake · 03/05/2024 09:55

@Lambriniwages There's no problem with your brain, I promise! It's just that particular part of your subconscious mind that's telling you "this will get worse" needs to get a reset. It's both possible and relatively quick and easy to do it. Have a look at my AMA.

Thank you I do worry about myself lol how do I do that sorry I'm new on here I have no idea 😂

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Lambriniwages · 03/05/2024 10:32

Eyesopenwideawake · 03/05/2024 10:02

Lol I have plenty of coffee here thank you so much I'll try anything ☺️

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Whataretalkingabout · 05/05/2024 01:36

Hello OP, you could try the free app called 'Noise' for your phone. It has all kinds of different sounds from white noise to rain to Buddha chanting.

I have neighbors who like to party late at night and this app drowns out the noise so I can sleep. It is very calming. HTH. ;)

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