Not posted on mumsnet in a long time but I urgently need advice. My dd (16) had a phone call from a friend at midnight. He had too much to drink and also had some weed. He was in a bad way, crying, begging for help. We located him through snapmaps and he begged me and my daughter not to take him home. He was in a t-shirt and not wearing any shoes so I took him back to ours. I've only met him once before.
Transpires he has been abused by his dad and step dad and witnessed abuse from step dad to his mum. Step dad is no longer around.
He was so scared and didn't want my daughter to leave his side, so she chatted away to him. I managed to answer his phone from his mum and told her where he was and that he had two much to drink and I didn't want to leave him on the street, so thought it best he came home with my dd. I gave her my number but stupidly never noted hers as friend was getting paranoid about the whereabouts of his phone.
Anyway, I went into the other room and he carried on chatting to my dd. She sends a message that he wants to kill himself. I go back into the room and she is in tears over his talk of suicide. My dh suggests that everyone needs some sleep as emotions are running high. I offer to stay with the friend so my dd leaves as it's 2.30 by this stage.
I've now chatted to the friend. He is under cahms and is so full of anger about what has happened to him and his mum. He talked about killing himself and I really think he's seriously contemplating it. He has not slept properly for I don't know how long and regularly drinks and takes drugs. He told me where he has left notes and how he would do it. He just wants to "sleep" and be with his grand parents.
If you have any advice on what I can do to help please tell me. I'm totally out of my depth. He's finally fallen asleep, but I promised him I'd stay so that he doesn't wake up scared. I need a plan of what to do next when he wakes up. I've told him I'll take him home and I don't know if his mum knows what he is feeling. He says counselling and cahms has not helped.
TIA