Help needed

[ohsuzannah]

My 34 year old autistic daughter just found out that I've put a tracker in the car to keep an eye on her when she drives off during a meltdown. She is out picking up a prescription for me. I feel awful, but felt I had a valid reason for doing it. She has self harmed many times so I was trying to keep her safe.
What do I say when she comes home?

i would say tell her the truth but it’s probably not helpful as I have no real experience with autism. FWIW I would have done the same.

I was attacked and she's broken my hand.
I don't think she understands why I did it.

@DreamyMintFish
What are you trying to say?
All this is true.
I was also attacked this morning.
I'm 70 and yes I am her carer
She does things for me when she can. I'm crippled with arthritis and can't drive. I also have a kidney infection
I was asking for help about how to explain to an extremely agitated and violent woman that I had no choice but to put the tracker in the car.
No advice from you though, eh?

Why are my posts being deleted?

You should not have put a tracker on her car. That's an extreme violation of her right to privacy. I have a diagnosis of Bipolar Disorder and at various times over the years have harmed myself in significant ways... not once would my partner or family have considered spying on me or tracking my movements. The only thing you can do here is apologise profusely and mean it. I'm nearly sure what you've done is actually a criminal offence and she's absolutely right to be furious.

And as for your statement that you had "no choice" ... you absolutely did have a choice and you made the wrong one. You need to own it and take steps to respect her boundaries and right to privacy.

I have apologised and explained why I felt I had to do it. You haven't seen my deleted posts which offer a full explanation, not acceptable on this forum. I never meato hurt, only protect.