A family member is refusing to get treatment for bipolar disorder and is leaving a trail of destruction around her. Her husband is finding it very difficult and myself and my husband have been trying to help her and him and we are now finding it very difficult. From manic texts to turning up at my place of work to lie after lie and saying awful things about the rest of her family and putting herself in vulnerable situations.
Last week her husband left his phone behind going to work. She went through all his messages and there were lots of them from me and my husband to him over the course of the past few months and she went crazy. Especially when she saw me having texted.
There were some on it noting her behaviour. I can understand she is upset that she feels everyone is talking about her and she probably trusted me in her own way and feels now I am talking about her to her husband. Interestingly I have heard nothing from her the past few days and usually this would worry me and I would be checking on her etc. She has been texting crazy my husband about non specific things. Is it wrong to stay away now and wait until she contacts me again? My family think its a blessing this happened and to stay away from her. I dread calling to her on my own to see if she is ok as her outbursts do worry me and leave me shaken for days. I know because of her fragility she has probably escalated this to awful heights. Etc. The rest of her family are fed up with her and are distancing themselves from her. I feel so sorry for her as I know if she got help she would be a new person. But its so difficult when she is refusing it. I have been bringing her to the doctor and helping her with her shopping and trying to give her support and my husband too has been helping both her and her husband. She refuses point blank to take advise from doctor and won’t listen when we tell her she needs additional support and help. The other side of me knows she isn’t well so I shouldn’t worry about the phone viewing and just get on with looking after her. Has anyone had something similar happen and have any advise that may help. Thank you.