My indecisiveness and need for reassurance is making my life hard

[Indecisivegal]

I’ve nc for this but long term poster. I don’t know what to do about this but it’s impacting me quite severely now.

i can’t make decisions, or I think I want something and then when it comes to it I can’t do it.

for example, I’ve been doing it with jobs, I want to leave, get through the process of interview and then when it comes to handing my notice in I can’t bring myself to do it so I stay.

I’ve been working on a project at work for the last year, and I’ve said for a while that it’s impacting my mental health and work have offered me a different project and I accepted. Now I’m worried to take the new one on, as my husband said he would have stayed on my last project as better the devil you know, so now I’m doubting my decision and worrying but I can’t change my mind now and mess work about. It’s done.

I always feel like I need my husband to reassure me that my decision is right, he generally isn’t very reassuring, he didn’t encourage me to take the last job, he seems to think the opposite but I’m not happy.

im so confused, and lost, and worried and don’t know why I’m like this and wonder if anyone can relate? Or have any advice. I feel like I’m mad.

Have a look at this article on core beliefs - the 'truths' about ourselves that we develop in our formative years. I think it will help you start to understand yourself better;

https://www.betterrelationships.org.au/well-being/core-beliefs-self-acceptance/

Yes I am realising this about myself as well. It's tough. I feel like when I make big decisions I doubt myself so much and it's crippling me. I don't have any answers. Just solidarity.