I’m sick and babies aswell !!HELP ME!!

[Madlindove]

Hello this is my first ever post or thread here. I’m 24 have a toddler and a 7 month old baby and they both have very bad colds more like chest infections since weeks on and off. Currently my toddler has a high fever and the smaller one screams all night bc of her pain. Now the problem is that I’m very sick now like not just a cold. I have very bad headaches, cheek pain tooth ache and my nose is all sore. Sore throat and nausea. And I’m all alone I don’t have anyone. The gp didn’t give me antibiotics bc they say it’s viral but In my whole life I never had this pain and can’t rest all night I’m awake and day time the cry and need me . What should I do help me pls

Do you have any family or friends you can call on to help? Do either of the children see their dad/s?

Dad is working and all day till late and night helping me so he does what he can do. Parents in Germany I’m German.

Sounds like you have a sinus infection...bless you... you have a lot to contend with. Ring out of hours tell them its a sinus infection as you know its now not a virus and need antibiotics. Fever for kids , give them calpol and fluids and nice warm bath if you can..you know that anyway. Im sorry, i know what being single parent is like (the viruses, infections dont last forever) but thats no comfort atm. Can you get the kids to gp asap if you can get appointment? I wish i was there to help, i understand xxx

Sorry thought you were single parent. Get dad to bath the kids, you get off to bed with paracetamol and rung gp in morning xxx

Ok, take a breath. This will be over soon. Viruses don't last forever and you hopefully youre at the peak and it will start to get easier.

Put the TV on stock up on Calpol and ibuprofen for you both. Take the recorded doses and alternate between. Keep drinking water and herbal teas and orange juice.

It's so horrible looking after sick children whilst sick but this will be over soon!

Yeah I've just had a sinus infection too it does sound like it (though of course I don't know over the internet) only thing that cleared it for me was antibiotics. Vick helped a bit. Also a hot shower and breath the steam in. Apparently you can sit with your head over a bowl of really hot water and breath the steam in but who gets to sit around with near boiling water for ages with preschool kids?

What's the GP say about the little ones?

Keep yourself dosed up on lemsip/painkillers and the little ones too. DH and I text each other when we give Calpol, even if we're in the same room, so you can scroll back over the 24 hours and check when the last dose was and how many they had. I was feeling so crap with the sinus infection I was struggling to remember who took what when

Alllllll the cbeebies/YouTube kids. This too shall pass

You have my sympathies, It's so so hard when your all ill at the same time, I've just had a vomiting bug at the same time as my 4yo and 1yo and it was living hell.
Honestly just do what you need to do to get by for now op, it will pass.
Keep on top of pain relief for all of you and drink plenty hot drinks to help your head/sinuses. set up camp on the sofa and stick the telly on.
Have the children been checked over by the doctor? They may need some antibiotics if it's chest infections

Calpol plug in's are amazing for babies colds.

Make sure that you are keeping up with paracetamol and ibuprofen to manage the pain.

Be kind to yourself. Let's the kids watch as much TV as you need to be able to rest. Xx

Can you husband have a day off ?

thank you, my husband is working all day so he is tired when he gets home very late and he doesn’t like touching the baby she is very naughty eventhough she is sick. So I hear only crying and vomiting babies. Went to gp two days ago he said it’s viral and for babies same thing. But I’m sure I have sinus infection bc it’s been like this for a week now and not getting better 4 nights no sleep . I have to still clean up the house my husband gets home and hates dirt and has not much patience. He has occd. I get very dizzy and I’m taking co codamol bc paracetamol doesn’t help at all.

Your husband doesn't sound like a supportive, loving husband or dad. If you're so unwell that you can't care adequately for the children then he has to take time off work if there's nobody else who can help you. My husband has had to do this a few times over the past few years when I've had been very unwell (COVID, HG, once a terrible ear infection where my temperature was over 39 degrees, as well as when I was recovering from surgery).

I hope you're soon feeling better, and your children too. I find boiling water in a bowl and lean over it helps unblock sinuses but appreciate you can only do that when the kids are both safely in bed out of the way. Also saline nasal sprays can help with unblocking your nose a bit too. And migraine Kool n sooths stuck on your head might help head pain a bit.

Thanks, I wish it would just pass however they are sick since months since Jan 2024 they had about 4 rounds of antibiotics amoxicillin and they are both babies one is 2 the other 8 months . I’m lost and now it hit me and mentally I’m very devastated about it. They lost so much weight and the gp just don’t care I take them weekly

My husband works a lot so he can’t take off he took of one day which I appreciate. I’m more lost about the fact why the infection is not getting better and why my baby’s don’t get better. Thanks I will try these I tried everything already. Im drained and I lost weight aswell in the past week

Oh lovely. I’m so sorry, what an awful time. It WILL pass, hang in there.

Take lots of vitamin C and wear earplugs/noise cancelling headphones - you will still hear your babes crying but it won’t be so acutely stressful.

Feel better soon 🌸

Ask DH to stop at a 24hr supermarket on the way home and pick you up some Sudafed for Sinus pain and calpol to make sure you don't run out.

Lots of fluids to thin out mucus and make it easier for your body to shift.

Ice lollies, ice cream for your toddler, dont worry too much about healthy food right now, just anything they will eat and that's soothing to sore throats. Again plenty of fluids it helps with stuffy noses.

How is your baby naughty Op 🤔

Your husband sounds like an idiot.
He won't touch the baby ?
An 8 month old baby is not being 'naughty'.

My 8 month old issue can crawl, picks up everything eats tissue. Pulls her big sister hair and jumps on her and she knows she is being naughty bc she laughs at it. She is screaming if the bigger one eats sweet and wants it I don’t give it to her but she will scream for it. She is very fast. You can’t hold her she will run and not sit in your lap she is very much like a toddler she can’t walk yet

I think you and your partner may need to do some reading and learning around child development OP. You could speak to your health visitor for some advice. An 8 month old is a baby - they have no concept or understanding of 'naughty' at all. They have no knowledge or understanding of what pulling hair actually does to your older child, and they also have no impulse control. And of course she will want what she sees her elder sister eating, thats only natural. If someone was sat next to you and started eating something that looked interesting and tasty but you weren't allowed to have any, how would that make you feel? And a baby has no understanding of why they can't have it and no ability to control their emotions.

I actually feel quite sad for your little one, that at 8 months old her parents have already decided she is 'naughty' for behaving exactly like a normal baby.