Feeling down in pregnancy

[Puppins]

I’m hoping for some advice on how I can improve my mood please.

Currently 26 weeks pregnant with a high risk pregnancy and I’ve been feeling pretty down for the last few weeks. I have been admitted to hospital a couple of times with a pregnancy related health issue and there is a chance I could be admitted at any time, until delivery.

On top of that we are moving house which in itself is stressful, however, due to issues caused by a solicitor further up the chain, our move was postponed with less than 24 hours notice last week. We are even more stressed and out of pocket by hundreds of pounds.

Pre pregnancy I never suffered from low mood, poor health and things generally went my way. Everything is getting on top of me, for example I’m feeling useless at work as I can’t do my usual role due to my pregnancy complications and I’ve had to cancel so many plans as I’m more or less on bed rest with the exception of walking.

I’m fed up of moaning and hardly ever having positive news to share with people, so I’ve found myself pulling back from friendships etc so not to burden them with my issues. This in turn then makes me feel a bit lonely.

Can anyone offer any advice please on how to cheer myself up or even to get out of this negative mind frame?

Speak to your midwife, or GP. Be honest how you’re feeling. I too had (3) high risk pregnancies. The first I didn’t seek help and it got worse. I ended up with horrendous PND. Seek help now, before it gets worse x

… and this is from someone who even before pregnancy suffered from low mood etc. I ended up with PND after each pregnancy. Please speak to your midwife. It’s what she’s there for. Good luck :)

Thanks for your response, sorry to hear that you suffered from PND. That’s my worry is that if I don’t address this now, it will only get worse.

Do you know what the next steps are after telling my midwife I’m struggling? I have a consultants appointment before my next midwife appointment, would I be best raising it with my consultant? Thanks

I think it’s best raising it with the first medical professional you next see / speak to. They might suggest antidepressants or coping mechanisms. At least then you’ll be on their radar. Don’t suffer alone, I was always told my baby needed me healthy (in the mind) to look after them x

The best thing to do is be open about how you feel and ask for help. Call your midwife tomorrow and dont delay it.

Your body is doing an amazing thing, but all those hormones and growing a tiny human will take it out of you. I didnt feel normal until after i pushed my one out.

1. Dont be so hard on yourself. Yes pre pregnancy you could do loads of things and wouldnt get stressed but right now you are not pre pregnancy. You are growing a baby and that is flipping hard work!

1. Dont push your friends away. Talk talk and talk some more. Dont bottle any of your feelings. Dont feel ashamed to share. Not everyone has great pregnancies and your friends will understand and be there for you. You need a good support network

1. Take each day one at a time. Dont waste time worrying about.something that might happen and deal with it when it does. I know this isnt easy but it will help from making you feel overwhelmed.

1. set yourself small goals. I set myself goals like, brush my hair or go for a short walk. If i get to the end of my day and i have done one of my little goals, it makea me feel good.

1. Look after yourself. Self care will make you feel better. So brush your hair, have a bath with some nice smellies etc. I learnt yhe hard way with my first that you really need to look after yourself