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DP personality flip

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frankiefi · 13/04/2024 09:46

2 months ago my DP was diagnosed with an illness requiring daily low dose meds. Since taking the meds his personality has taken a nose dive, to the point of daily conflict despite my constant attempts to avoid.

The children and I have been in tears over his excessive reactions that start with irritable and continue to a blow up, then back to irritable.

Though I am not afraid of him, I have been triggered due to a previous DV relationship, so my instinct is to stay well away from him.

We've known each other for over 12 years, relationship for 4, we have had only a couple of crossed words and absolutely nothing to this extent.

He went to GP explaining situation and GP changed meds. After only 3 days they switched back because his ailment had an episode.

My frustration is that there are surely more than 2 choices of meds, but at the moment he's staying on the original meds anyway.

So...can anyone offer any wisdom to how I can best support him/our relationship during this difficult time. Other than the lack of physical fear, though anxiety and probably fear too is affecting me due to PTSD from previous DV history, it is like being back in a relationship with my ex. I cannot express how far away this is from his usual character. Not only this but his sense of humour is completely gone which has always been the basis of our bond, as well as with the children.

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frankiefi · 13/04/2024 09:51

Reading that back his comment to me that I'm 'making it all about' me does seem true, how can I stop doing that when inside my alarm bells are deafening me. Please help Sad

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frankiefi · 13/04/2024 12:04

Anyone Confused

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Pantaloons99 · 13/04/2024 12:05

Hey OP. Does he have to take these meds. I'm wondering if they are steroids. Are there other medications he can take.

ChampagneNightmares · 13/04/2024 12:09

Does he have anywhere else he can stay away from you and the children while he gets better?

Also, has he recognised that his own behaviour is not acceptable and what is he doing to manage it?

Octavia64 · 13/04/2024 12:11

I am disabled.

I have been on meds that caused me to have massive mood swings. It was awful. I switched meds.

I understand the second choice meds have made his ailment play up but are there not third or fourth choices?

frankiefi · 13/04/2024 12:15

Thank you, I feel so alone and lost with the situation.

Yes he does need to be on the meds unfortunately, they're for his heart/blood pressure. There is a chance that he could be offered a procedure which will mean the meds are stopped but this is not an option now, and may never be.

Thankfully we're able to stay apart most of the time for now.

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frankiefi · 13/04/2024 12:19

I hope the GP offers other med choices but he hasn't pushed for them.

He was extremely remorseful of his actions for a couple of days (after an extreme blow up) but now he seems to be back in an irritable mood and turned to being accusatory, resentful and looking for an argument.

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TeenLifeMum · 13/04/2024 12:21

Can you/he discuss with a pharmacist as they are great at finding alternative options re meds.

frankiefi · 13/04/2024 12:24

Thank you, I hadn't thought of going directly to a pharmacist. I will do that today.

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