Nobody really understands me

[ChipButty]

I have suffered with periods of mild depression throughout my life. Behind a lot of it is the feeling that no one really likes me very much - no one 'gets' me. I feel with my Mum and sisters that I'm always the one arranging things and I'm always the one to ring them. I feel like it's an effort for them to do anything with me or even contact me sometimes. I have old friends from uni and we get on well when we meet (infrequently) and I have colleagues that I get along with but no one in my day-to-day life that I can just have a chat with, or have a coffee with etc. I have a DH whom I love very much and who I know loves me but sometimes I just want a female friend who I can vent with. I want a family that wants to be with me and talk to me. I know that I can rely on my family in times of crisis but am I being selfish in wanting more than that? I feel like an outsider in many ways and my moods are very up and down. Please slap me and tell me to buck my ideas up. Thanks.

Will not slap you, you might slap me back harder. Sometimes feel like this myself about family and friends, feel everyone else seems to have such great friends, and not me

i feel this sometimes too. sorry i cant help any further.

xx

Chipbutty-please don't ask to be slapped. You don't deserve it, and you can't just pull yourself together. You are being far too tough on yourself.

I feel like this sometimes, and its really really awful. I don't have the answer, except you can't just snap out of feeling this. So please don't expect yourself to.

well you are a unique person that is why people dont get you

its what makes you interesting

I feel like this an awful lot - hence my mn name. I also wish i had at least one girlfriend i could just hang out with.. just to let you know you're not alone.

No I don't think you are being selfish having that support is really important just helps maintain your sanity. How to make those sort of supportive friendships is another thing I have one I have had for 20 years when we started our nurse training together. Now we do not always agree but we know that we will always be there for each other sadly she lives the other side of the country but hopefully not for much longer as I really hope to be moving up there

I think the only way to find that person is get out there and meet as many people as possible. Mind message boards like this are always good for a good old winge when you need one.

Thanks. You've all said some helpful (and kind) things. x