Partner suffering from depression/breakdown

[PinkPingu]

Hi need some advice as I dont know how best to handle my current situation
Me and my partner have been going through a rough patch (hes also having hard time at work) - I thought we were coming out the other side but he suddenly become distant yesterday
He works from home Sunday nights but was working alot later this week and then at 3am decided to go for a walk and didnt return until 5am, today he went to work came home barely spoke to me and when he kissed me just barely brushed lips (not like him on both fronts) then went on his computer and been playing/talking with friends

He warned me last week he felt on verge of a breakdown due to stress and I feel he may have crossed that line - I want to help him and bring him back but I dont know what to do for the best or how to handle this please help

Have you tried talking to him tonight? If he is suffering from depression I would encourage him to see his gp and try and get some support but obviously he has to be willing to do this for himself! All you can do right now is try to get him to open up to you about how he is feeling and let him know you are there for him. Good luck ❤️xx

Hi thank you for reply,
We had a talk last night and didnt go how id like he thinks we need a separation, that he feels lost like he doesnt know himself anymore and thinks having some time apart he might be able to do that

Hes mum had a breakdown when he was young that she never recovered from (she was on tablets and he feels they changed her) and in his eyes ruined there family, he refuses to see dr and have history repeat itself

He has arranged someone at work to cover some shifts, and hes leaving in the morning for a few days the hope is some time apart will give him some clarity and hell come back home (im terrified itll go the other way) - tho he has promised me if he comes back no clearer he'll speak to dr

Perhaps he needs to start looking for a new job? If that's at the root of all the problems.

Ah I’m sorry@PinkPingu do you have support in real life to help you at this time? X

Honestly OP?

This sounds like the Script to me. Churchez la femme and all that.

Ive said this to him but he was always reluctant as this job allowed him to be flexible so he could work around me with my uni days etc

Im due to finish my degree in a few months then we were supposed to be packing up and moving to a new area for a fresh start

Not really Ive told one friend but she lives out of area so limited plus she has very young children (mine are teen/pre-teen)

Hubby was always my person the one I turn to so its really hard not having him to talk to about everything

I really dont think there is anyone else involved

Well he left this morning and is coming back Saturday and im just hoping that he realises he does still want us

Havent told anyone yet other then 1 friend, dont want family esp our kids (kids think hes gone away for work for few days) knowing anything unless there is anything for them to know and I really hope there wont be