Funeral help

[Summersoul]

Hi all
My aunt passed away recently and it's the funeral soon
Since my parents died I find being in places that I can't easily leave like meetings or churches really difficult. Any advice to help me get through a crem service without having a panic attack?

[InTheTimeItTookMeToEatAnEggSandwich]

are you on any medication? If not then a prescription of propranolol might help. It stops the racing heart, palpitations & hyperventilation so you can remain calm and your mind doesn’t race wanting you to flee.
Sorry for your loss

[Theeastereggsareallmine]

I’m sorry for your loss, I lost a parent a few years ago and haven’t been able to attend a funeral since.

Do you have to go in person? We had the option of having the service put online ( with a code to access) for family members who couldn’t make it.

Would that be an option? I’m sure family would understand your reasons.

Alternatively as pp suggested your GP may prescribe propranolol.

Good luck

[User884721]

You can leave. Make sure you're sitting at the end of a row and you can slip out if you need to. Sit at the end of the row beside the wall if the place is set out that way then you don't need to walk up the middle. People might see you leave but that's ok. It could be for any of a dozen different reasons.

[Cranarc]

Sorry for your loss.

You can leave at any time. So if you do want to try to attend, then follow the advice of a previous poster and find a seat at the end of a row near the door. If you get there early you will be able to choose your seat more easily. You can, if necessary, pretend you have some medical condition that might mean you having to nip out to the loo at short notice - this explanation can be used for the crem staff if you want their advice on the best place to sit, or for anyone you might need to ask to vacate a seat to allow you to sit somewhere suitable. Just knowing you can leave easily might help you not to have a panic attack.

Is there someone you can go with who knows the difficulty and can be a support for you?