How do you engage well with your DC when you’re depressed?

[parrotonmyshoulder]

Not sure I am technically depressed. It’s only been a few weeks. But one of the symptoms is that I don’t feel like being around my children. Don’t feel like doing anything at all. They both need a lot of MH support themselves, which usually comes from me, so the whole atmosphere of the house is just miserable and grim. I don’t really know what to do to pull myself, and consequently everyone, out of it.
I know that DOING something helps me, I know it does. I just don’t want to. It’s raining. We haven’t been back from school and work for very long. Seems a long time till bedtime.
I have just agreed to bake with DS. If I don’t make time for DD, she will quickly spiral down.
Thanks for reading.

How old are they?

Short bursts of activity with them such as read a chapter of a book, make dinner together, do some colouring together, bake a cake.

Chill and watch some tv together.

Try and get out the house to do something just a walk/ park or a wander round the shops if weather is miserable and get some chocolate at the end. Getting out the house always makes me feel so much better.

Thanks. 12 and 15.
Your suggestions are good and I was making dinner with one as you posted, and looking at homework with the other after we’ve eaten.

Cuddle up in the sofa with a film? I find being close, hugs etc helps. And going out for a walk, but it’s a bit late now

I'd try and focus on as many things that help you and include them if you can...

So for me exercise helps - go for a cycle, run/jog or walk. On the weekend you could drive somewhere new to explore or go back to a favourite spot. Go swimming. Borrow a dog if you don't have one.

Eating well - meal plan and cook together, listen to music when you cook and have a silly dance, bake some of your favourite treats. If you can afford to go out to eat, dinner or a nice cafe/garden centre.

Do a film night on Friday - get some treats and watch a film or start a series together and watch one episode a night.

Little treats - a new book, bath bomb, lipgloss etc - you could get a little pick me up for the kids too.

Self love - paint nails with your daughter, do face masks, have a nice bath.

If you have money book a weekend somewhere for a change of scenery or go on a fun family day out - bowling, arcades, theatre, shopping, go ape etc.

Crank up the music and have a kitchen disco 🪩

Why is it all on you? Can you get away for a couple of days either solo or see a friend/relative? Re-energise and then you'll have more to give.

Do you have friends or family to lean on? I’m afraid my advice is faking it, music is a great idea.

i have a 15 yr old, we talk a lot and she understands my MH, is that possible?