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Nowheretogo1985 · 16/03/2024 06:19

I'm really feeling so low at the moment. This is the second time ive tried to come off sertraline, and I've had 3 months off, I can feel myself going under. But I don't want to take ad's....there's got to be another way? Has anyone ever got through a period of depression and treated it a different way?

Everything feels like crap at the moment, and I think ad's numb that. My marriage is in a mess, my DP pays no attention to my MH and never has done. I resent him so much. We spend long periods of time not talking. Last night I made a comment aBout how nice a celebrity looked on TV, and he responded that he hated this female and hated everything about her. I replied 'dont say that, that's evil! He picked up his stuff and went to bed, wouldn't talk to Me for the rest of the night. I've apologised but he's still mad.
His dad is quite ill with cancer and he works 12 hour days so he's under alot if stress. I work 4 days a week and am left to get both children up and out of the house by 8am every day. I'm worn out. My parents are older and can't support me as much anymore. I hate my job. My eldest Is very challenging of a morning, the other morning he shouted that he wanted to kill himself ...he's only 7. I am ready to cry most mornings.

I have about 2-3 friends but wonder why anybody would want to be friends with me. My heart hurts on the school run when I see groups of mums together and a community that I am not part of. I actively avoid interaction and am deliberately late for pick ups to avoid people so I've done this myself but I genuinely find people hard work to be around at the moment. I've no idea how to be around people.

It's not like I'm young, I'm 42....I thought by this age I was supposed to have it all figured out and have got my sh*t together.

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Nowheretogo1985 · 16/03/2024 06:20

No haters please xx

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Babsexxx · 16/03/2024 10:12

Go back on it! At the end of the day you gotta do what is NEEDED! And necessary why would you want to come off it? Are you trying to just prove a point to yourself? It’s sounds like life in general is just too stressful at the minute for you to consider coming off it xx

mynameiscalypso · 16/03/2024 10:16

I'm the same age and I'm made peace with the fact that I'm on meds for the long term, if not forever. I've tried to come off them multiple times over the last 5 years and it never works well. I may need to tweak things at times - my psychiatrist has just added a third medication in - but it's always going to be a chronic condition.

I am sorry that life is so hard for you at the moment though Flowers

Nowheretogo1985 · 16/03/2024 13:41

Thank you both. I think I will need to. This Is just unbearable atm, I feel like I'm about to have a breakdown. Im exhausted and want to hide away. I'm so sad my life is turning out this way.

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DaisyCat33 · 16/03/2024 13:46

Have you tried any other antidepressants? You may find a different type works better for you. I've been on them for 10 years, various types and dosages. I've just accepted I need them. There's no shame in it.

Nowheretogo1985 · 17/03/2024 07:07

I know, I've been on and off them for 4 years. I just think it's not the answer for the long term. But when i was on them life was so much more manageable.

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DaisyCat33 · 17/03/2024 15:17

Nowheretogo1985 · 17/03/2024 07:07

I know, I've been on and off them for 4 years. I just think it's not the answer for the long term. But when i was on them life was so much more manageable.

If life was manageable when you were on them, then maybe they ARE the answer long term. For many of us they are. Trying to stubbornly fight against the need for antidepressants is only going to make things harder for you. Trying to cure depression without them is impossible for many people.

ivowtotheemybiscuittin · 17/03/2024 15:34

Some people are more prone to poor mental health than others, in the same way that some people pick up every cold going, some have allergies and so on. Plus you've got some difficult personal circumstances so.... Go back on them and try and get your life / relationship sorted. Then maybe when your life seems in a better place you can think about coming off them again.

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