How to support depressed husband

[Peacejan]

I dont know where to turn to and I feel awful hor feeling like this.

My husband has not been the same since his dad passed away 4 years ago. This year its taken a turn for the worse and he admitted that he had suicide thoughts and he just doesn't feel anything. He thought that he had grown out of our relationship but now he thinks that it's everything else taking over and our marriage is just at the bottom of the pile. He said "I don't love you as strongly as I used to, but I don't feel anything for anything I just don't feel anything" it's difficult to not take this personally and I'm just so scared and upset that he's going to turn around and leave me. I love him so much and all I want to do is help and I dont know what to do.

I've encouraged him to go to a local support group which he did attend and wants to keep attending so I think that's a positive. He has also said he doesn't feel suicidal right now.

How do I help him feel again? How do I help bring that spark back into our marriage for him?

Has he contacted his GP regarding how he has felt/is feeling? Usually they can put a plan in place to help any one with depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts.

I've supported my husband with depression for many years. Seeing a counsellor and taking anti-depressants has been life changing. He's now back to normal (dare I say too cheerful at times!). Depression is a serious illness and he needs medication if he's feeling suicidal.
Apart from that I just supported by husband by talking and listening. I don't see what else I could do.

All you can do is urge him to seek professional help, as much as it takes. Local support group, great, he needs to see his GP and keep going with all the options you can find until he finds something that works.

It's unreasonable pressure to put on yourself to think that you can do something to bring the spark back into your marriage at this point, he's got to do the work, you can't do it for him.