Is this depression? Or burnout?

[Pardonnezmoimadame]

I don’t feel ‘depressed’ in the way of feeling sad or hopeless, but I am very stressed.

I have a really toxic abusive ex who makes co- parenting hell which is really draining me. He is also dragging out the divorce as much as possible. After another exhausting spat with him, I’m exhausted.

I’ve found myself yesterday being unable to move off the sofa. I couldn’t get up this morning and had to phone in sick to work. I’m tired and just don’t have any energy or motivation to do anything. I have so many chores to do in the house but am unable to move. I’m not feeling sad, just hugely demotivated.

I’ve recently started on anti depressants but don’t think I’ve been on them long enough to see a difference.

is this depression? And if so, how do I get better from this?

Anyone?

It will take 4 weeks for the drugs to be effective. All I can say is that you need to give yourself a break as much as possible - chores can wait. Try to block/grey rock/get someone else to do the arranging with ex.

Only read his emails once a week. Taking back control in this area will help.

Even if you're burnt out rather than depressed the advice is the same. I'm making an assumption it's depression because you don't talk about your feelings about work at all

Basically you sound worn out

Watching as I’m feeling like this too… got some therapy but not sure that’ll be enough

Got the toxic ex too 😕

Thanks for your advice @LaurieFairyCake . I definitely think it’s related to the grind of my toxic ex rather than work. My job is enjoyable and they’re really flexible.

Even the most simple things are a massive argument with my ex. His sole aim is to make things difficult so he’ll even make things difficult for himself if it screws me up. During lockdown, I really noticed how amazing I felt because he never visited us.

this burnout feeling just feels like such an odd response- have never had this before. Hopefully the anti D’s will make a difference.

solidarity @crummyusername