Constant feelings of shame and embarrassment, any suggestions?

[Psychosomaticaddict]

I take setraline 50mg but maybe it isn't enough and I need to up it. A few weeks ago I probably came on a bit too strongly with a guy, got turned down. It's really not the end of the world but I can't stop feeling embarrassed. I feel my chest getting tighter and kept feeling like I made a fool of myself and that he thinks I'm nuts.
I didn't say anything that bad, just seemed a bit intense. However I keep feeling ashamed and that he thinks I'm some sort of psycho, the constant anxiety over it is driving me mad. Any suggestion would be appreciated.

I saw your other thread about this op and you seemed to have handled it well?

The fact you're still ruminating suggests you're obsessing over this. Is this usual for you? If so you might benefit from cbt?

Oh bless you, shame is so hard to tolerate isn't it, this sounds really hard and the first step is just to accept that this is how you feel and to sit with it. It will pass eventually! The second step is probably to explore whether this reminds you of anything else in your life - what has this brought back up for you? If you have trauma in your life it's very usual to feel shame and there are all sorts of useful therapeutic approaches that might help.

If not, if this is unusual and isn't triggering or reminding you of anything in the past, maybe it's trying to tell you something about yourself in the present? What would this shame say to you if it were talking to you? Is it doing something useful for you? Is there a reason why you can't let it go? Is there something to learn and then let it go?

Sending a huge hug, honestly you won't feel like this forever, it's a horrible feeling,
Especially if you're a bit trapped in a cycle of rumination about it... but listening to the feeling and learning from it might set you free from it!