Social services involved because of arguements at start of pregnancy.

[Mummyandroman]

Hi everyone, I don’t know if this is the right place to post this but I need some help and advice because I’ve been going out of my mind. I am nearly 6 months pregnant. 3 days ago I received a phone call from a social worker, explaining that there has been a concern raised over me and my partners relationship? At the beginning of my pregnancy we argued a lot and didn’t get on very well, I raised my concerns with my midwife and she referred me to Next Link, I worked with them for a while but naturally things got better between my partner and I so I didn’t need there service anymore, I told them this, yet it seems they’re the ones who have raised the concern. However During my time with next link I called the police on one occasion just because my partner was being abusive to me over text, they turnt up at my address and told me that my partner had not committed any offence and that there’s nothing they can do, they done a risk assessment and were happy that risk was low. My partner has never been physically violent to me, we don’t live together, I live at home with my mother and he lives at his own address. I don’t share any bank account with him or anything else, a plan is already in place which will allow him to see my little boy at my mothers house, where I live. What will the social services do? Will they take my baby from me? Will they put a plan in place or just refer me and him for extra help? This is my first baby after a miscarriage. I’m incredibly worried and anxious, this is honestly my worst nightmare. I have since cut contact with my partner on advice from a friend and if the social services tell me I need to leave him I will 100% do that. My baby comes first. Please someone advise me as I am going out my mind. Thank you.

They are just there to support you and to look out for your child, they aren’t going to take your baby away. They will do some risk assessments, they may suggest measures such as contact centres or supervised contact for example. It’s not something you need to worry about honestly you haven’t done anything wrong, they perceive there to be a potential risk and that is not a surprise given events earlier in pregnancy so they are ensuring you are both safe x

Thank you for your reply. They haven’t called me back yet, she said it would only take a few days. I have a nice family with lots of support, and lots of medical support to. I’m just so worried I can’t eat or sleep. X

Honestly don’t worry about it. Social services aren’t the enemy and they are there to help and support you x

Retired SW here. They won't remove your baby. They will check that you and the baby are safe and what support you have in place. From why you have posted you have absolutely nothing to worry about.

I worked with social services for a while, they won't take your baby as long as everything you've said in your post is true - that you have a stable home away from your partner and you can stay away from your partner IF asked to. They will probably run some background checks on you both and if anything comes up in his then you will have a close eye kept on the pair of you but if no further risks are identified and no other gateway referrals are put in against you then you will absolutely not lose your baby.

Hi OP

Taking anyone's child away is rare and you/envirorment have to be very wrong on many levels before it happens

Look at it as an intervention to help you along the path of good parenting and ensure as far as possible your baby is not at risk or the risk is better managed

You may not feel it but they are looking out for you and your baby

Good luck with your new baby

Thats great, having a "nice family" that is supportive goes a long way.