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Struggling with youngest

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Fahbeep · 17/02/2024 16:28

Three kids. No. 2 is autistic and has adhd. Really rotten time had between age three and six working it out, grieving, and coming to terms while dealing with a very shitty HT who was hell bent on excluding him from school (long story). Now at great school, ECHP in place etc, but the days are grinding just to keep the show on the road.

The issue now is No. 3, who is three. He is typical but I am finding I can't cope well with him making mess, being loud and demanding attention all the time (normal three year old stuff). Have realised it's because I'm having a reflex reaction, tapping into the trauma of the three very difficult years with No. 2 - and am experiencing low mood / mood swings / irritability that are undermining my parenting and everyone's happiness. It's not youngest's fault, it's just the one load too much that is tipping my wheelbarrow over.

Got a bunch of stuff going on at work too that I am sorting.

Not sure what I'm looking for with this post. Maybe just to set it down somewhere. Obvs, counselling might help! Thanks for reading!

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Pineappledancer · 18/02/2024 12:49

Hi, sounds like you have had a tough time recently and are doing your best. Three kids must be a challenge. I hope you found putting it down in writing to be helpful.

Do you have much real life support? A partner or family/friends who are understanding?

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