I thought you might guess who I meant! I'm really pleased we were able to get an assessment with him (after a seven-month wait). Hopefully, his report will push the local team to refer DS to ADRU.
It's reassuring to know that the assessment at the Maudsley will consider the appropriate setting for DS. Thanks for that information.
So sorry you had to go through three rounds of ineffectual CBT. That must have been such hard work and so dispiriting when it didn't resolve anything. But it's interesting to hear that your referral went through in spite of you not meeting all the criteria. My DS really doesn't want to take the antipsychotic he's been given, but we've been told he won't get funding if he doesn't. This may be true of the funding team - I don't know - but it seems very unfair, especially as (according to the professor who did the private assessment) the Maudsley don't care either way. And yes, it's silly that OCD is not considered a medical reason for refusing meds!
Do you think you'll be able to accept a referral to Springfield this time? I do hope you can. None of this is going to be easy (I know that's an understatement), but imagine being back in control of your life instead of OCD controlling you. It will be worth it in the end.
In answer to your question about why it's been so difficult to get CBT for my DS: I know that our local services are overstretched and the health team regularly close their services to new patients. However, I also think DS's autism diagnosis has played a part. There have been comments from professionals that suggest they see his OCD as part of his autism, or as too difficult to treat because of his autism. However, the professor was very clear that DS's autism was no barrier to treatment; it simply meant he might need some adaptations.
The fact that DS was helped with CBT before is what gives me hope. This was delivered by a therapist who trained at the Maudsley: she was brilliant. You'd think this history would have made the community mental health team more inclined to refer DS for CBT, not less.
Anyway, I'm making myself such a pain in the arse to the CMHT that they'll be grateful to offload DS in the end! I'm so angry and upset that DS has lost years of his young life stuck at home, unable to study, work or have friends. It's so unfair when there is a treatment pathway clearly laid out in the NICE guidelines. DS has now lost hope and doesn't have the skills to advocate for himself, so it's my mission to get him the help he needs. I won't stop until he does.
In answer to your question about local services: DS is already under the local community mental healthcare team, yes. So it's just a matter of persuading the team to refer him on to specialised care. Of course, once I achieve that, I will have to persuade DS to go, which won't be easy if it's residential care. I know this will be incredibly hard for him. But I think he'll see that this is his chance to lead a happier life.
Good luck to you with your treatment 💐. I know how much courage it takes to face up to OCD fears. Have you seen the documentary on Bethlem made in 2013? I watched it yesterday and was encouraged by the progress the patients made. It also gave me more realistic expectations. I have a fantasy that DS will come back from residential care restored to his pre-OCD self and, of course, it won't be like that at all. But the hospital sets people on the right path and all of them continued to make progress after leaving.