This is a very long one, please bare with me, I will try to break everything down
this is about myself, partner, children and extended family
young couple met at 17 and 18, typical teenagers, completely obsessed with each other, spend every minute we have with each other
right from the start my parents didn’t like him, didn’t like that we spent all our time together. We both had our part time jobs and college which we both still attended
pregnant at 18 and 19, we both decide do we wanted to keep our baby, we would do what it took, we moved in to a granny flat at his parents house
when it came out about the pregnancy my family completely flipped out, I mean phone calls, harassment in the street
everyone wanted me to have an abortion
highlights-nana told me it would be my fault my mum and dad divorced because of the stress
dad asked my mil to make life hard for us, charge us high rent etc
his brothers were verbally attacked in the street
phonecalls all hours of the day
dad had a meeting with my entire family, meaning aunts, uncles cousins, I’d she comes asking for help don’t her her situation
i mean right up until birth they still told me I could put the baby up for adoption
baby’s born, all the families have turned up to the hospital. Cards congratulating me and not baby’s dad, staring down the in-laws in the hospital
babys dads birthday 3 days after baby’s born, we were celebrating that day but my nana wanted to visit, baby’s dad tried to talk to her over the phone explaining it can happen another day not today, all arguing started again
that’s where I cut ties with all extended family, just parents and siblings I kept in contact with
it’s always hard work and painful, every time we talk eve enthrone we see each other
fast forward few years, we have two kids, there going to mum mum and dads for the night. My nana shows up, my daughter Over hears her saying
why is she here
also that I’m fat
after this is told my parents they were no longer allowed to have unsupervised visits at there house unless they could make sure no one else was there when my kids were there
my dad showed up kicking off that he would take me to court for grandparents rights
(funny how you didn’t want them now you do)
either way we had a meeting and they couldn’t agree to that rule so they aren’t allowed to see the unsupervised
Fast forward
three kids now
pregnant with fourth
my sister is now in a relationship with my brother in law
sister rings brother in law saying that the house is on fire, he rings my partner who jumps in the car goes straight round and checks she’s ok, she is, fire service is there and fire is out
he comes home and I say we have to go back, pick my mum up on way and see my sister
when we get there nana, grandad and cousin are there aswell
sisters covered in black from smoke, and I’m so happy she’s ok. All my sisters worried about is that dads going to kick her out over this (he does and she’s homeless)
nana makes a comment to me about it being awful, I say it is, she’s so lucky to be ok. Cousin says you don’t have to talk to her just because of the fire
i walk to my mum and say goodbye, I’m pregnant and there pathetic
as me and my partner are walking to the car my grandad literally tries to fight my partner, we leave, hes an old man and pathetic like I said
after this I meet with my parents again, talk through the whole situation again
nothing changes
right now were nearly 20 years in, 5 kids deep, crazy but happy
many more things have happened but I can’t write them all
my sisters having her first baby with the bil
I am so happy for them and I’m so excited to be an aunt
theyve all gone out for a big meal to announce their pregnancy
we got a knock on the door
they all went out for a big gender reveal
we got told in my mils front room, and we weren’t all there
my parents have handed them a “large” amount of cash to use a deposit for a house (this is awesome, I hope they get a great place)
there all planning a big baby shower for my sister
I’m hurting, nearly 20 years and they still think there right, not one apology
ive never asked any of them for a single thing, no babysitting, no lifts, no money, nothing
this hurts, why wasn’t I why aren’t I good enough, why didn’t my kids get this