How to raise a child’s self esteem

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Hi just wondering if anyone has advice
DS is 8 has a boy at school saying no one likes him
DS thinks if he replies he will hurt the boys feelings ?
same issue in football he doesn’t want to tackle other players in case they get hurt

Want him to not be overly sensitive and what can we do except giving praise and trying not to criticise him too much

Not clear who thinks nobody likes who. Your son or a boy at school?

If your son thinks he’ll hurt players by tackling, can you get him into a club where they can explain an allowed tackle. If he doesn’t like football, find another sport, boys don’t have to like football.
Also explain that not replying to the boy is actually quite rude and could hurt his feelings.

Am I reading right? A boy in your child's class says to your son that no one likes him (as in your DS)?

If that's the case I'd tell mine to say "actually, I've got lots of friends and everyone tells me they don't like you"

I'd also get him to join a soccer school or football team to help with the tackling.

I'd find him something he's good and get him into extracurriculars for it.

A boy told my ds that no one likes him (ds)
I was bullied in primary school so find this upsetting

Oh I see. Why would he hurt that boy’s feelings by replying? It sounds pretty unlikely that it’s true( I work in primary and don’t know one child that is universally disliked.) I would speak to the class teacher and report what this boy said and find out what the teacher knows about his relationships.

Your DS sounds absolutely lovely. I’ve heard that learning a marshal art can be good for that kind of character where you internalise things and take on other people’s problems/ pain etc

DH tells him off for not getting out of school uniform (jumper and joggers ) after school
son doesn’t really listen /want to

and at dinner he left the table to play games as said his food was too hot dh told him to come back and when he didn’t husband turned the Tv off

aren’t these instances worse for self esteem

You’re not making much sense. What does the last post have to do with it?
If he’s told to change out of uniform by his father, he should do as told. He should eat his dinner and not watch tv. I’d have turned tv off too.

My kids would be in trouble in this house for not listening in these instances too.

Both have good self esteem.

I think you should back your DH tbh. Seeing parents showing a united front is healthy for kids and good for them.