Feeling disappointed with how things turned out..

[GreenEyesGal]

Ive been going through a rough time recently. Work is stressy and gets me down, I feel my husband and I have hit a low patch again, son who lives away never calls, other son at home has difficulties, mainly ADHD, medication doesn’t really help. I was feeling bored one night and went onto Facebook and looked up my ex. He had some photos on and ever since looking at them I’ve felt even worse. I no longer go onto Facebook but he seemed so happy with his life, has grandchildren something I’ll probably never have. His family seemed close and together and we’re having fun and smiling.

How do I get over this low patch and stop feeling sorry for myself?

C'mon - you know FB pics are just a fleeting (and posed) moment in time. I bet if he looked at your profile he'd see the happy, togetherness public face you want to present to the world; not the messy, complicated, unpredictable stuff behind the lens. His life is very very probably exactly as good and bad as yours is.

What changes do you want? Pull a list together. At the moment you have a big, nebulous, 'life is pants' problem. You need a '1, I'd like Bob and I to be doing more together 2, I want space to do something creative 3, I need a change of scene' sort of problem.

In the long and time held tradition, a problem is easier to tackle if you break it into smaller parts. If you make the list here, we can bomb you with suggestions for each element. Or you might just want to do it for yourself. Just making the list might feel good, in itself, though. Focusing on you is lovely.

@GreenEyesGal I'm not sure how old you are but many people struggle with peri menopause/menopause.
You may be feeling low or depressed and the stress of work combined is impacting you.
Contact your GP and look into Talking Therapies if in UK...you can refer yourself online.

Can you ask for support at work?

Social Media is not the place to be comparing yourself if you're feeling low. Alot of the time people only post the version of their life...

Try and be active if you can and plan things you enjoy doing... even if it's simple relaxing things.

NHS every mind matters website has helpful wellbeing advice.