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Unhealthy Coping Strategies

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UnhealthyCopingStrategies · 18/01/2024 15:03

My brain is a complete muddle. I want to come and post something for support - might try again later.

Normally I cope by eating - happy, sad, anxious, stressed - food is the cure all. How I'm not the size of a house I don't know, but lately that's not enough...

Anyone else relate?

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GTsundaydriver · 18/01/2024 16:01

Mine is drinking unfortunately, I work crazy long hours, have two young children, one who is disabled, I have a sibling dying from cancer and a lot of family issues plus health problems of my own, I use alcohol to escape my own thoughts sometimes.

Have you spoken to your GP about accessing help and support? Do you just need a stranger to get it all out to and have someone to share a struggle with?
Mumsnet can be toxic at the best of times but there's many of us on here who genuinely want to help people struggling

UnhealthyCopingStrategies · 19/01/2024 13:11

Thanks for replying. The NHS has been more than useless - even with physical issues and my job is difficult impossible to ring up and then wait all day for a call back.

I've had struggles for all of my adult life and I'm just at a point where I'm contemplating the unthinkable. I just want the world to stop. And then I read about other's situations - yours included which sounds so much worse than mine and then I feel like a fraud even more.

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Mindyourfunkybusiness · 19/01/2024 13:20

I work until I drop, I don't stop. Be it housework, cooking, baking, all forms of gaming, playing with kids, things for me with music and dancing (so my brain doesn't start) until I get into bed where I watch shows until I pass out rinse repeat.
Had therapist on NHS, she said I was working like a well oiled machine but how long can I continue like this. Idk. Before when I worked full time I worked am to pm, any overtime offered then partied into the am, slept 3/4h and all over again. Obviously alcohol and coco. But had kid accidently so obviously had to stop and instead went into work until drop mode. I physically and mentally don't have the capacity to listen to my sadness. It's drowned out.
Therapist said my brain doesn't trust me to handle my demons so it takes over the driving seat and that I need to show it that I can now handle my shit. Tbh I'm mad productive like this, is it really a bad thing? I don't know. Better than the depressive pit I was in prior to this.

I can't say it's good or bad but therapist didn't want to unpack too much as it was only x sessions. It's really hard on the NHS.
What about fake it until you believe it?

UnhealthyCopingStrategies · 22/01/2024 10:42

Thanks for posting too@Mindyourfunkybusiness. That sounds really rough. I'm a bit like that but due to my physical health not being that great any more, I tend to scroll and scroll - often phone, laptop and a TV show on the go. Feel like I completely have to compartmentalise. When I open that box it's normally in the shower, so I have a cry and then put it away again.

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