AITA

[Northernirishmum]

Hey everyone I'm just wondering AITA so started a new job before Christmas as haven't worked for 10yrs since having my son and partner said he would support me then as the weeks went on he has had ago at me about the males I work with 🙄 because i apparently talk about them all the time but never says anything about the women I work with which I mentioned to him on more than one occasion as my team is mostly nearly all women Bar one man and most of my team are old age pensioners apart from a girl who lives in my street and same age as myself we always argue and fight every night I come home ask why I'm home late when my shift finishes at 5 and I'm home at at 10 mins past 5 and I should be home at around 5 past 5 as I only live around corner from my work today he started on me because I came home 10 mins past 5 said he's done started screaming at me because apparently he can see my cleavage and other men would see my cleavage 🙄 I wear a tunic to work you can't see anything as it zips right up and then he was going on about males in my workplace again so I told him to wise up stop causing drama and he slammed fridge door on my arm I asked him to leave my house and he said he would and good luck finding a babysitter for our son cause he's no babysitter and I will be fcuked !! So told him to go and of course he's still here trying to play victim saying he's no where to go and I use him to baby sit our son which I explained he's not working I am providing for our family he has a duty to our son until he finds a job he's not babysitting if it's his own child 🙄 so again asked him to leave and he said we'll when he does go he will not be minding our son from 3 till 5 everyday he will see him after 5 everyday so I said basically your trying to sabotage my job and he said no I'm not being used as a babysitter because your at work so I said to partner our son is at school Monday to Friday 9 to 3 I finish work at 5 and you can't even watch our son for 2 hrs he apparently has better things to do than babysit and wants to see our child on his terms as I'm an assh**e who only thinks of themselves 😒

He's physically, mentally and emotionally abusive. Please get him out without endangering yourself. If you need help doing that call the police.

I found your post really hard to read due to lack of full stops but I think I got the gist! It sounds to me like he is jealous with no reason. So you were right to decide enough was enough and ask him to leave.,

What is 'AITA'?

"Am I The Arsehole?"

An Americanism I believe.

Get rid. He's an abusive cunt.

On another note 'old age pensioners'? Really?

Thanks for all your feedback 😊 a lot has went on since a week ago. So told him to leave and he's still here !! And he's been frosty with me ,even though have said countless times to leave my house as its mine . He then had ago at me because I drop my child of at a ( mum friend) house in the morning . As her husband would take my child to and from school each week ,and I always pay for petrol each week .so every morning me and my mum friend would have a natter and coffee for 30 mins each morning about kids ,school work ect ... before I head to work , he started to create an argument as if im not aloud any friends . Its not as if im going out drinking or partying. Most mornings he's not even risen from his pit sleeps all day . When he does some housework he has to announce it ! Makes out he does everything . He doesn't do much apart from stick a wash on or tumble dry does even fold or put clothes away ,leaves it for me to do . Hes lazy !! So he started again this morning ive contacted his family members and they don't want to even deal with him . So today made him ring housing and told him anymore of his rubbish he may find a hotel or hostel. He started crying begging me to forgive him,not backing down and he's now came to the conclusion I'm cheating . It's absolutely draining.

He's neither use nor ornament. It's your house so stay firm and reiterate he has to go. You deserve so much better. Good luck

Fuck that. Who modelled relationships for you? He's unemployed, thinks parenting is babysitting and is abusive to you. Your son is seeing all this.
You need to dump him. UC would also likely help with childcare fees if you get rid.

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Hey all !! Thanks again 🙂 just an update . We've been arguing the past few days ,quite draining tbh asked for half the money of our child's belongings. Which I was quite confused about as I paid for everything . I actually laughed in his face .🤦‍♀️ Told him he lives in cloud 9 .As he doesn't contribute to anything .I provide the basics and everything else our son needs .so I asked him earlier to go to his dad or sisters as I've had enough !! He point blank refused as he's nowhere to go. I said to him you have options and are claiming benefits which you keep to yourself ,so you can either move to one of your relatives or get a hotel not my problem.also told him he's just using me for a roof over his head, and for his own image of a loving family man . Which he isn't. As he doesn't contribute and I certainly don't need him to babysit as he puts it . My child is more than capable of looking after himself for a couple of hrs till I get home ,as my job is literally a stone throw away from where we live .if my child needs me he can literally call over and sit with me no biggie .I just thought with ex being his dad he could of helped with homework taken our child out to the park or get an ice-cream just normal dad duties while im work .show some actual interest in our son !! So I contacted his family and said if he's not gone by tomorrow police will be involved. And I will get a restraining order for the man child who can't seem to take responsibility for anything. So everyone had been warned and so has ex .as I explained to everyone, including ex I've never needed anyone always been independent. So apparently he's taking me to court for custody of our child . I just laughed at his empty threats .

OP does he smoke weed/drink?? He sounds extremely paranoid? Also I’m assuming he doesn’t work?