Do you find living in a city gets you down?

[Raaraaaaa9]

Just that really I am from Bristol and I just finding the city more and more depressing and I just fallen out of love with it. So dirty, terrible litter and fly tipping issues people living in caravans everywhere and using public areas as toilets, cars parked on pavements so you have to walk on road, dog poo everywhere. People off their faces in middle of the day. I live in what is considered an alright part of the city but all of this and the traffic makes me not want to go out! I am from here and have my family close which is lush and wr have great jobs but god I think city living is bringing me down!

Different City, but not my experience, no.

I love living in a City, for all the facilities, and therefore choices you have.

I'm tired of it. I get lonely. I like the things it gives me, there's always plenty to do but I feel empty.

I plan to move to a smaller town at some point. I need to appreciate things more. I have TOO MUCH now, I need to downsize my expectations a bit. Oh, there's only one museum to visit. Oh, I have to travel a fair way to see a concert. That kind of thing.

I love living in a city as it gives me what I want - lots to do, lots of friends close by. A diverse population. Public transport and walkable so people aren’t reliant on cars. I’m not bothered by crowds and dirty streets. IMO the different areas of a city give it character even if they are rough and ready.

If you crave calm and green space, a city is unlikely to make you happy.

I have lived in a lot of cities in various countries and not always been happy - it’s about the right place and fit for you.

Living in the countryside. Pretty depressed at amount of mud. Step outside- mud. Dogs covered in.mud on walk..Cara covered in mud. Shoes.
This from September to what, March?
Enough to make me want to live in the city.

No, I've lived in big cities most of my life, and appreciate the options, the range of people, and all that.

I think I'd like to return to the city, as I prefer the attitudes there.

No. Also depends on your situation. I have 2 small kids and I depend on city life for things to do with them, eg good childcare options, soft play, swimming, shops, but you can also mix it with nice outdoor options like parks and national trust places.

Being able to have opportunities to meet other parents/make friends is also important.

@Raaraaaaa9 I live in Bristol and I can completely relate to what you have said and how you feel.

I have seen a massive deterioration in our city over the last 18 months (and I think there are reasons why Bristol is being hit so hard with the cost of living crisis, which is no doubt at the root cause of what you describe -but that's for another thread!). It is difficult not to find it depressing....and it is also stressful.

I feel nervous being out after dark, and it puts me off going to the gym in the evening. Which definitely affects my mood. My closest gyms are in walking distance....Easton or Broadmead....it just doesn't feel safe to walk there now! The bus isn't an option either.Even popping to the local shop for a loaf of bread is guaranteed to encounter aggressive begging, and drunk, drugged & desperate people.

For me, the dark evenings combined with dodgy people everywhere, has definitely restricted my activities and made it difficult to stay positive.

I am trying to stay positive by looking forward to the spring and more daylight hours. And I've also decided to plan some day trips on the weekends to some nicer environments.

Also hoping for a new major this year, who might fix some of the issues.... hopefully a new government too. I'm sure things will get better for us soon. But yes I agree with you that the city is currently a bit dismal.

Mayor....not Major!

Yes I felt the same about living in the city, I got out and now live rurally but I’ve gone from one extreme to another, now I have no facilities here so I need to move again.

Exactly this
Maybe it's a Bristol specific thing. There has been a massive deteration like you said. I am from Bristol living just near easton and in my whole 40 plus years I have never seen anyone injecting drugs on the street until last month 8.30am on cycle track on the way to school. It made me feel sad that this is happening for people in our city, the services our non existent. It makes me tired and stressed I find it dirty noisy and depressing. As for things to do the museum has had the same exhibitions since my mum was a child! And unless you have tons of money or like doing balloons very little fun stuff to do. The parks are all run down and broken. Ugh. Maybe I'm just having a rant!

I fell out of love with London after living almost 30 years there and moved to a small, friendly coastal town.

I am so much happier with a quieter lifestyle.

My physical health (I have a long term health condition) has improved too and I realise the stress and the environment were affecting me really badly.

I just had enough of the crowds, noise, anti-social behaviour and how expensive everything is in London.

I think as well that city has changed for the worse in the past 10 years and lost a lot of its quirkiness and creativity to just become bland and corporate.

I still work for a London based company, which I hate, and my next step is also to find a new job to end this occasional commute. I will always enjoy visiting London but I would not want to live there again.

I get what you are saying, I have lived in several places across the country where I have had experience of one, more or all of those things. I’ve moved to a village in the country and don’t see hardly any of these things, except some litter on the side of the road…. Thrown out of cars passing through from the towns and cities. I’m much happier here, agree with the mud though.