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OCD- coping mechanisms

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Schnoodle · 06/01/2024 14:55

Gah, I'm driving myself (and husband)crazy. I have OCD. Things at work have been stressful and I'm signed off sick. But now I'm hyper focused on my cat... been to the vets twice in one week (all fine) and yet I'm convinced he's not eating, checking his litter tray and food bowl. And can't seem to stop the compulsions.

In the last week I have started fluexotine, reading can worsen symptoms. Not sure what to do!

Any pearls of wisdom?!

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Helplessandheartbroke · 06/01/2024 15:41

Hey op another ocd suffered here also on fluoxitine 2.5 weeks not kicked in yet and defo gor worse before better! I didn't think things could. Ocd is an awful illness to live with, there's more of us out here than you'd think. I blame myself for everything and most recently losing my dog. Hang in there. Hopefully the meds will kick in soon!

Schnoodle · 06/01/2024 15:56

Sorry for your loss. They are such a big part of our lives.

Agreed, didn't things could get worse. Haven't been this bad in years.... I refused to go into my house once... long story!

Will stick with the fluoxitine and just hope things improve. Thank you for responding. :)

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Helplessandheartbroke · 06/01/2024 16:01

I can't relate honestly. I didn't want to be at my house and still don't after losing my dog. Keep talking and posting on here. Have you considered cbt?

Lizzbear · 06/01/2024 16:07

It's horrible. Stick with the meds as they should help a bit, just takes a few weeks.
I've got the sort of obsessive thoughts that if I worry about anything, I ask for reassurance. It could be something really small, but if it becomes a "worry " I obsessively ask for reassurance. It drives people mad!!
I take sertraline and I think it helps
Good luck op

Schnoodle · 06/01/2024 16:51

Ah I'm sorry you're struggling too. :(

Yes, had some really helpful CBT last year and thought "aha, I understand now".

However a boot load of external stress and I have no resilience for it. Thank you for responding.

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Schnoodle · 06/01/2024 16:52

Ah thank you! Yes, the reassurance seeking! My husband and google.... but Google just feeds the beast!

Thank you for responding. :)

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Ohnoooooooo · 07/01/2024 10:54

OCD can be heredity and we have lots of OCD in our family.

We have discovered we have inattentive ADHD too - its more common in women with OCD then I think people realise. Inattentive ADHD is busy mind rather than busy body and it feeds into the OCD because your mind is running a hundred miles an hour and you don't register information so naturally recheck stuff.

I used to be a big checker but don't really do that anymore - if I am getting stressed and noticed I am checking things I either say out loud or in my head 'I have checked X' so it helps me remember I have done that.

My son's way of mostly knocking his OCD on the head was to think of the worst thing that could happen and then accept it happening. ie you are worried your cat will die - you've had it checked with the vets twice now and as an animal its going to get its needs satisfied with or without you - so if you really want to stop worrying about the cat you are going to have to say to yourself I am not going to worry about the cat anymore, and if it dies, it dies.

I also suspect you are not breathing properly - when we get stressed we start doing chest breathing rather than belly breathing and so you are not getting enough oxygen to your brain and hence its not thinking clearly.
Try some breathing techniques to ground yourself.

My daughter has the OCD where she constantly seeks reassurance from me - is very difficult for us both. The psychiatrist explained with behavioural OCD you have the process of the thought and then the behaviour so more chance of stopping the behaviour. With compulsive thoughts there is less time to stop the action of asking the question.

Fundamentally, OCD is really our response to anxiety. Other anxious people bite their nails or have panic attacks or whatever. We have compulsions to try and reduce our stress/anxiety - what we have ended up doing with my daughter is she has stopped 'OCD' specific therapy and focuses on learning to deal with her anxiety.

When my children first developed OCD the therapist said to me that my mother (who has anxiety and OCD) was never taught the tools to manage her anxiety as a child and therefore did not teach me, and in turn I did not teach my children. If you feel you did not learn how to manage stress/anxiety as a child then focus on learning these skills now.

Lizzbear · 07/01/2024 11:06

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@Ohnoooooooo
Thanks for your interesting post.
Does your daughter have any specific ways of dealing with compulsive thoughts/reassurance seeking.
I'd be interested in trying them myself
TIA

Schnoodle · 07/01/2024 22:20

@Ohnoooooooo thank you for your thorough response.

For me it's not that he will die (I know he will someday). Just i worry its because I've been negligent/missed something/lack of action.

Breathing is a good reminder, it does make me tearful when I do breathing exercises, so you are right it is founded in anxiety.

Thank you for your response. I really appreciate the time you've taken to write!

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