Stop the world, I want to get off

[FriedDumpling]

I don't know what I'm hoping to achieve here.

Does anyone else feel like they just want everything to stop?

The last year has been hard for my family, I lost my mum a year ago and I'm just starting to realise that apart from my husband and child I have no one.

There are work colleagues and acquaintances and no one else. There is no one I would go to with problems or for comfort. No family, no friends. It has become so hard to connect with people.

Husband has ongoing health issues so can be hard work, child is small still. It's obviously not healthy or reasonable to expect them to be everything to me.

Is it normal to just feel like you want to escape and start again? Like there is no one in life you can confide in?

I don't know who I am any more, I have no clue about my likes or dislikes or abilities. I'm not even sure I feel human any more. Is it possible to come back from being a nothing?

I want things to be better but I feel very alone and I don't know if it's possible any more.

God yeah. I dream of running away sometimes, just disappearing.

My main problems at the moment are physical issues so unfortunately there's nowhere to run from those.

You're not a nothing, you just maybe need to do something for you, not as a partner or a mum, just for you, even if it's as simple as going for a walk, throw on a good podcast or music even if it's only for a half an hour.

I don't have people to confide in either, I have a couple of friends but not the kind I'd spill my guts to. I've rung helplines in the past when I've needed to talk something through, it's an option and does help.

Am with you, Too much going on and too much causes anxiety. Lost mum too . I’m not being very helpful! But you have my empathy and a lots of hugs 💐💐💐💐

yep I feel you. I don't know how much more I can take but yet I have to put on a mask and keep on going to keep everyone and everything else going. There's too many plates spinning now though and they are all going to come tumbling down at some point in the not too distant future and I would love to just take off to an island somewhere with only my hare and cats for company and live in a remote cottage where people never go.

Can I come?! There’s too much to deal with as an adult.

Hi Op,

I imagine the grief of losing your mum will have really affected you. I’m sure it can take a very long time to start to feel yourself again after something like that.

It sounds like you need to find some time to make/revive relationships with others. Could you try and pencil out some time to join a mums and toddlers play group to try and meet some parents in your area? Or could you pluck up the courage to ask another parent at nursery etc for a coffee? I think having a New Year’s resolution to build up more friendships around you would make a big difference.

With the identity thing do you think you have started feeling like that since you became a parent/lost your own mum or have you always felt that way? It might be the case that you need to get back some you time, whether that’s 30 minutes reading a book with a cup of tea or heading to a yoga class etc.

x