Sudden Bereavement

[warmmfeet]

Hello

A friend who lives far from me has gone through a sudden unexpected bereavement of a close family member. It's extremely tough on them and I want to send something helpful or practical - I don't think flowers will help much and alcohol won't either.

Has anyone got any ideas? A food package maybe? Anyone been through this and can suggest anything? Trying to figure out a day to visit but got to work around work and childcare etc.

As someone who is going through unexpected bereavement, I would say just let them.know you are there. People often say they are but after the initial phase they are not. When u do see them, u probably won't know what to say. Take ur lead from.them, just listen. Good luck OP

Took the words out of my mouth! Ring and message friend be an ear!

I agree - when my OH died I did not want gifts - I wanted people to listen and let me wail and sob without them retreating - and to come back.

Right ok thank you, that makes sense.
I will try and visit asap and be sure to keep up the phone contact.
I'm sorry you are also going through this 😔

When you visit you could take some home cooked meals for them to reheat/freeze. (If you are a good home cook.)

But I agree with pp, being there and coming back and being consistent will be more helpful. Even if you don't feel helpful.

Ye consistent too definitely! I've been grieving for over 2 weeks now and after a week people forget and ask what's wrong if you look down.... that's the worst. Understand its a process and a long one at that