Anyone else really struggling today?

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Feeling very low, struggling to find something in the new year to look forward to, I fear only more disappointment and discontentment.

Sorry to hear you’re feeling low. I think lots of people struggle with New Year’s Eve.

Have you been low generally or is just a crappy day?

Can you plan anything that might be something to look forward to? Even something really simple just for yourself.

I hope things start to feel better soon.

@Kielyflower thabk you. I’ve been generally unhappy for a while, I know I need to make changes but I’m anxious and overwhelmed about making them. I’m very unhappy where I live, I have a partner whose life is established here; any move I make would have to be alone and this scares me; what if it’s the wrong move etc

I can very much empathise with feeling anxious and overwhelmed about making changes.

Not for you to answer here if you don’t want to but I’m wondering what it is about where you live that makes you unhappy and also if you could/would stay with your partner even if you lived separately?

Maybe you don’t need problems solving, so am here just for a handhold if that’s more what’s needed.

I know sometimes when things feel too much I just start really small. One tiny step on the direction I want to go.

I live in a remote corner on a small island. Visually stunning scenery; initially I used to think that I had found paradise.

After years of living here paradise has turned into hell. There are no real facilities here, limited job options, poor infrastructure and hardly any public transportation. It’s a long drive out just to do basic things. It’s boring and depressing. I’ve been here 10 years and nothing has really changed. Im older now and I feel that I really want to live somewhere which is more accessible, cheaper etc.

I love my partner very much but I need to make a change for me. I don’t know what this would look like for our relationship as he is tied here for 9 months with his job.

I've felt the same today. Nothing to look forward to. Worried about what the year will bring. Just every day the same - work, housework, helping kids with homework, make dinner, watch TV, go to bed and do the same again the next day.

If you move, might your partner join you when possible?

Or are the other changes you can make - to do with your routine or hobbies, or joining some sort of online community or online course - until you can make the move with your partner?

May be you don’t need to rush into making big decisions. Frustrating and depressing as it is, sometimes treading water for a bit is the best option.

@Mufflepuff sorry to hear you’re feeling down. Some of the above is relevant to anyone feeling like this - tweak a few small things like meals you make or routes you take or people you see. Even a new TV series or book or something.

Slowly things might seem better. I hope they do anyway.

I’m not in a great place but I am taking each day as it comes and trying to do something positive each day with the hope that I will feel better at some point. It’s hard though, especially as a I’m naturally pretty impatient and want to feel better straight away.

He could come for holidays but his job is where we are, not sure it would be possible immigration wise for him to move. I think if I went on my own would it be any better as I would be lonely.

Please seek urgent help, your life could be in danger.

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