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Christmas party / separation / going crazy

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Ohwhatadag · 15/12/2023 19:41

Hi! I just my Christmas party. I am having a completely disproptionate reaction. Was rejected rrom table i first approached (apparently all seats bagged but afterwards more people were let on). No-one wanted to sit next to me in the new place i found. Moved on to next pub and I approached a group who left one by one, leaving me by myself, to go to other tables. I realised that this was not the best environment for me and left.

After 4 glasses of wine i am i floods of tears. Why? Because I feel unliked by my co-workers? Is it greater?

I found out dh was unfaithful with another woman last march. I believe this went on for under a month. Since then i have discovered that I have herpes. First symptoms 5 years ago. We lived in aus and I thought it was skin cancer, but it kept disappearing before i could get to the doctor. Symptoms appeared about 10-13 years after we got together. I believe he has been unfaithful since dd (11) was born - give or take. We have stayed together to try to make it work for dd. But he still lies to me. 2 weeks ago he stayed put till 3:30 am in a "lock-in"...aka his usual mo.

Do not know. I wrote this because I was so upset about not being liked at work. Now i have written this i don't care. It's all so fucking shit (my life).

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blackrabbitwhiterabbit · 15/12/2023 20:25

Didn't want to read and run. I really feel for you. Hope someone comes along with some advice.

Squiggles23 · 15/12/2023 20:38

Hi @Ohwhatadag,

Sorry to hear about the bad Christmas party. They sound quite an immature/insensitive bunch - are they quite young? I think some people are just on a mission to be on the fun table etc and not being very thoughtful. It probably isn’t that they don’t like you.

Remember alcohol is a downer as well and sometimes when you aren’t in a great place you end up feeling much worse after a few drinks. Probably if you had stayed it might have got better but I think you did the right thing in heading off.

Thats really horrible about your husband - what a prick. I know a few people with herpes now if it gives you any comfort to know it’s becoming more common, but obviously it’s horrible and really unfair on you to have got that because of him.

Sending you a big hug.

xx

Ohwhatadag · 15/12/2023 21:21

Thank you for you kindness

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WishIMite · 15/12/2023 21:23

Urgh Christmas parties are tough. Do you have any “work friends” who you chat to? Maybe cultivating a work bestie might be a good idea going forwards?

The wine is undoubtedly making you feel sad and insecure. Do you have counselling via work or somewhere you could talk these issues through (re your husband?).

Don’t feel too down. Christmas parties are usually horrific. That’s why everyone gets hammered so they can cope. Xxx

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