I cant feel like this anymore

[Katyp84]

I'm really, really struggling to cope at the moment. The worries of life are getting too much for me and I dont know what to do. My husband's business is on the point of financial failure, and I'm constantly thinking about what that means for us a family. Will we loose our home? He has had poor mental health in the past and I know this will finish him, I'm worried sick. Its all I can think about all day every day. In my head, we've lost our home and he has hit rock bottom and will kill himself. I feel like such a failure, there is no where to turn. We've put business debts onto our personal finances so there is no personal money to save it. I dont even know what i want from this post, I just feel so alone and scared. I dont want to feel this way anymore, I just want it to stop.

Anticipating bad news is far worse than experiencing it. When people face a challenge they do what they've always done - they cope with it, using their knowledge, life experience and help from others. Think back to every situation you and your husband have faced in the past, both individually and together - you've got through them, one way or another. What practical steps can you take to feel more in control? Can one or both of you look for alternative work? Can you talk to your mortgage lender and switch to interest only or extend the term? Can you wind the business up now and limit your losses?

In my head, we've lost our home and he has hit rock bottom and will kill himself. Have you discussed this with him? Thoughts like this are poisonous when they stay in your head but lose their power when they are expressed because they can be disproved and invalidated.

Are you seeking all the help that's avail to you?

Katy, I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. I'm going through some heavy stuff that is weighing me down too at the minute and feel exactly the same.

I don't have any answers for you, but you are not alone. I'll check back tomorrow.
This too will pass....I repeat this over and over. I'm just getting through an hour at a time and tackle small things I can. And trying to be gentle with myself. Can you try the same? Sending strength. X

Have you done all you can practically? Has he talked to the bank? Can you put the business up for sale?

Can you get a job in the side to prop it up for a time?

Consider getting some SSRIs from the GP to tide you over?

Can he talk to a friend, family member? Can you tell them he could really do with an arm round his shoulder right now?

It is so important that you involve others at this time

Have a heavy load on my shoulders right now OP so I understand your feelings, the only way I can get through is one day at a time and when that’s too overwhelming I break it into chunks of an hour, a minute, just whatever I can manage, keep breathing, get as much rest as possible although as a chronic insomniac I know how desperate it is to be up all night with terrifying thoughts racing in your mind, you know that saying “when you feel you’re in hell, keep walking” or something like that, because if we don’t keep going we’ll be stuck in hell, in that dark tunnel and we have to believe there is light if we just keep putting one foot in front of the other

Katyp,
Just wanted to pop on and say I hope today goes a bit better for you and echo what Raspberry said above. A minute at a time.
Do you have anyone you trust that you can talk to? If my friend was feeling like that I would want to know. Even just to listen from a place of complete non judgement. I promise you things are never ever as bad as they are in our heads.
Wishing you a peaceful day.

And Raspberry the same to you. Seems there are a few of us in the same boat. I hope your day goes easy on you.