Worried baby will have disabilities

[orangeguy]

I have a new born and I'm worried they will have a disability. I'm not focusing on autism... but really it could be anything.

The dad isn't around and the dad's sister has a child with ADHD & Autism. Sometimes I wonder if the father does have autism because he can't communicate his feelings with me, however he has a job and was in the marines etc. he's fine when he's had a drink.

My nephew does have autism but that runs in my sister in laws family.

Anyway, doesn't matter, I'm just so anxious about it all. I could be worried that the baby has blue hair, it's just anxiety.

I'm under the care of perintal MH team. I'm wondering what therapy can be offered to help me change this terrible thought pattern?

I think it's standard pattern for Mums to worry about everything. But then as a mum if something happens you deal with it, best you can and better than you think because that's your job. Therapy won't stop you worrying because fact is we could all die tomorrow. There's a good chance we won't, but therapy won't change that. We just have to deal with life the best we can and do what's in our control

I'm thinking the worst vase scenario. How will I support my child and the "loss" and if I will love them.

I shouldn't be like this. It hasn't happened yet, it's just not healthy.

It's easy to underestimate how far a mothers love goes for their child. All children are different it might mean a loss in some areas but gain in others. I've currently realised my children have no natural creative art talent and will never be a maths genius or win a spelling competition. But they are amazing just as they are x

Try and think this when your thoughts run away with you. Stop worrying and start enjoying. You will be surprised how amazing you can be when you are needed to be, we all worry, it's part of being a parent

Autism and adhd are NOT the worst case scenario.

As mums we worry about everything and tbh this is out of your control. Whatever happens you deal with it as best you can like other mums. Can you try counselling and cbt to try and get anxiety under control? Parenting is hard enough without you having to live your life like that. Sending hugs