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Social anxiety taking over my life

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Sayaaaaaa · 08/12/2023 19:26

My social anxiety never use to be this bad, I would avoid social situations yes but that was only for crowded social situations,and I had my own few friends and I didn’t like to make new friends and that was it I never minded talking to a stranger, but now I can’t even talk to a stranger, I guess when I got into a relationship with my SO I started using him as a crutch and he would take over with any situation that made me anxious and tbh I think that’s what’s made it worse,either that or it could be down to having a baby now there is someone coming tomorrow to fix our boiler, and my SO won’t be here and so far I have had a mental break down, I have S.H, I have been crying all evening at the very thought of a stranger coming here. someone I don’t know coming into my home. someone who I will have to speak to, I’m so stressed out about it and it’s this that’s made me realise how bad my social anxiety has gotten, I don’t want to go to a Dr or anything like that but I’m only asking on here to see if anyone has been in a similar situation and to find out what u did to fix it what helped?

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Squiggles23 · 10/12/2023 10:03

Hi @Sayaaaaaa,

Oh no that sounds horrible. Sorry I haven’t experienced it so hopefully my advice isn’t too helpful.

Can you try and work out what you are feeling anxious about? If you think of it from the plumbers view, he’s coming in to do a job which he does all day. He won’t think anything of you. All you need to do is say hi and show him where the boiler is. If he asks any questions you can just say sorry I don’t know about that. You could even pretend to be in the middle of something?

Try and breathe through the anxiety and see it as a little challenge perhaps. Keep thinking what is is you are worried and nervous about and what would happen if that did happen.

It sounds like you’ve acknowledged the issue got way worse by relying on your partner so I think you need to try and give yourself a push to not rely on him.

Are you having therapy? I think you need specialist advice/help. Possibly also some medication for anxiety.

Good luck with the plumber, it will not be as bad as you think. ❤️

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