How to support friend and her DD

[Tardyjo]

A good old friend is going through a fairly down period, her anxiety and depression is bad and she has lost another job.

Her DD is being very difficult - school refusing and has anxiety amongst other issues but is also really acting out - vaping etc - which my friend doesn’t seem to be aware of. I’m wondering how best to support her. I genuinely think her DD is taking her for a bit of a ride but am unsure as to whether broaching this is a good idea. What do people think ?

You do not approach the subject of her DD, of whom you really know might about. You kindly offer your friend an ear whenever she needs one, a cup of coffee when she wants a chat, a hug when she's down. You support her, you do not judge her child.

How old is her DD?
Is it not more likely her DDs behaviour is linked to the mothers mental health rather than being the kid just being cheeky?

I wouldn’t risk offering an opinion unless it it asked for. However I would offer some practical support for your friend to help her with whatever she is struggling with. Then if the topic naturally comes up and she asks for advice about her DD you could give it then.

Ok thanks for the advice. I’ll do that. Cuppas and hand holding

Sorry DD is 14

Has she asked for support? Be there for your friend, but I find living by the rule ‘don’t give advice if it’s not asked for’ suits most situations.

Her DD is being very difficult - school refusing and has anxiety amongst other issues but is also really acting out - vaping etc - which my friend doesn’t seem to be aware of

I'll bet you anything she is aware of it.

Don't even consider going there.