Suicide contemplation

[Zykonoz1234]

NC.

Has anyone seriously contemplated suicide and how did you come back from it?

I am in a situation and I can't see a way out.

first question op

are you alone?

do you have any children with you?

Yes, and no children.

Keep talking...

Please phone the Samaritans on 116 123 if there is nobody in real life you can talk to. There is always, always an alternative however bleak things look right now. My sister in law died by suicide just over a year ago and it is completely devastating for those left behind. Please reach out to those who love you or a stranger who will listen, whichever is easier in this moment.

someone is at home with you?

please go to them. presuming they love you? supportive?

I lost a life long friend/ ex partner to suicide last year and it's been so very traumatic for all of us.

If he only realised how much he was loved.

Please, call out to someone, anyone around you and tell them how you are feeling. A friend, colleague, neighbour, family member, anyone.

Please, be strong, reach out x

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources. You can also go to the Samaritans website or email them on [email protected].

Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

We also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

Wishing you the very best,
MNHQ💐

Thank you. I've just spoken to someone from the Samaritans for 50 minutes.

Please please please stay with us. My friend’s son took his own life last year and there are no words to the grief and trauma of those left behind. I’m glad you have talked to the Samaritans please keep talking, I don’t know you OP but now I know the devastation it leaves behind and I do wish I didn’t. Keep strong x

What's the situation?

Thank you everyone. I am okay. I can't talk about it but she helped.

I am sorry for these sad stories.

A permanent solution to a temporary problem.

I too lost a family member to suicide last year and I can't begin tell you the devastation left behind. I had no concept of how far the repurcussions would spread until it happened.

You may feel they'd be better off without you and all your problems, but I can promise you they wouldn't. Please reach out to someone you trust, or a professional and get the help you need.

Guilt tripping someone who's already distressed is not helpful.

It's okay. I've been really distressed and not able to speak to family or friends or colleagues about the situation- hearing someone say realising/remembering how much you are loved is helpful. The samaritans lady was really helpful.

I’m so glad you were able to speak to someone helpful. You matter, probably to more folk than you will ever realise.

OP - you can ring Samaritans again if you need to. You won't get the same person, but it's good to know you can go back. 116123 24 hours a day.
You don't have to be suicidal to call, although we will ask you that question.

I am glad someone else said this as I was thinking the same.

Op is posting for support not to be guilt tripped. That’s not helpful. Neither is “ stay strong”. Jeez I fucking that. My mental health is in a precarious place too right now op and I can resonate with you in terms of the horrible and sad desperation to make it all stop.

We are already strong as we are dealing with shit in our heads. All the time. So we are strong already. You are doing amazing.

Keep talking op and well done for calling the Samaritans. Talk to your gp, Google NHS crisis lines, call 999 etc if you feel you may really hand yourself.

You are important, precious and deserve to be here and get the treatment you need to feel better.
Take it minute by minute if you have to, keep distracted ( mind have really good crisis support techniques for the here and now), try colouring, grounding ( take off your shoes and walk barefoot outside in the garden- works for me).. but anything ANYTHING to help you get through until you speak to someone who can really help you.
Keep talking . We’re here. I’m here .

Sending love ❤️

What helps one doesn’t help another.

The OP responded positively to posts and yet you decided to voice your disdain for what they wrote.

We are already strong as we are dealing with shit in our heads.

so ”Stay strong“ shouldn’t offend you

Thinking of you op ❤️

How are you this morning ?
For some people the nighttime can bring on these thoughts , and this time of year + your concern / feelings can multiply things many times. I hope today will be less of a burden for you and it's good you found some comfort with last nights phonecall.

Thank you. I had about two hours sleep. I was awake most of the night. I have a really stressful situation going on but I dealt with some of it this morning. I am probably bordering on hysteria due to lack of sleep. On the way to my work. I have done as much as I can.

That was what the samaritan lady said to me - you have done as much as you can. I felt really seen when she said that.

Brilliant advice x