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Feelings of inadequacy in relationship

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chillichutneysarnie · 20/11/2023 07:09

I feel inadequate in most areas of my life and it's affecting my relationship. I'm married, with a house and a child but I don't feel secure. Due to feeling like so so many women are better than me (better figure, more interesting, more mature, more capable, more bubbly, better jobs... I mean the list is quite long) I feel it's inevitable that my husband is at some point going to prefer another woman. At times I can control the feeling but at other times I can't and I get antsy and suspicious and just have this feeling that I can't shake that something's 'up'. I start acting weird and then he knows something's wrong but I can't explain to him what it is. I've had talking therapy a few years ago and didn't really like it, someone just asking me questions and then listening and saying "and how does that make you feel?" didn't fix anything so I'm reluctant to pay out money for that type of thing again. I don't know where to start.

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DustyLee123 · 20/11/2023 07:12

Sorry to be so blunt, but he’s probably going to get pissed off with this and your thoughts might come true, at your own hand. I think you should find a better counsellor.

Eyesopenwideawake · 20/11/2023 07:12

Start with this guide to Core Beliefs and see if it resonates with you;

https://www.betterrelationships.org.au/well-being/core-beliefs-self-acceptance/

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