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birthday blues

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verysadperson · 18/11/2023 16:03

it's my birthday today and I am feeling very sad. for various reasons i seem to have pushed away anyone near or dear to me. i have a family of my own but not really close to husband, i get on ok with one of my DC but that can be changeable, the other one really seems to dislike me, even though only 11. I feel like I tried my absolute best to be a good mum but totally failed, and I can't really see the point of carrying on any more, apart from not causing upset. i used to be a friendly and caring person but for various reasons have just got ground down and am now pretty hostile and isolated.

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Squiggles23 · 18/11/2023 21:16

Happy birthday OP.

Sometimes life can wear you down a bit. Maybe try and focus on what you can do to help the situation. Is your 11 y/o actually disliking you or just being a typical pre-teen?

x

OverWorkedOverMommed · 18/11/2023 21:27

Happy Birthday!!

I'm sorry that you feel like this.... That you're not close to your husband or child - maybe... could you arrange a day to spend time together - to work on family life?
Is it something you want to work on?
Or... do you want to start again?

Take a deep breath!!
What do you want in your life??

Lavinia56 · 18/11/2023 21:29

I'm sorry you are feeling like this, and happy birthday.
I always say that life goes in its ups and downs. At the moment you are in a low period, but things move on and you will have happier times.
Maybe family counselling might help?

verysadperson · 18/11/2023 21:50

Thank you so much @Squiggles23 , @OverWorkedOverMommed , @Lavinia56 I am so touched that you replied to my post and thank you for your thoughts, advice and helpful questions. I was feeling so bleak when I posted but had a visit from a family member and have managed to gain some perspective, and realise things are probably not as bad as I think they are. Thank you for your kindness.

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Squiggles23 · 18/11/2023 23:43

So pleased you are feeling a bit brighter OP! ❤️

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