Babys eczema making me depressed

[KayTea723]

I know this sounds ridiculous but my babys eczema is making me suicidal. I really feel like i cant cope anymore. Shes 8 months and had it since 2 months old. For 6 months our life has been turned upside down. The constant creaming a screaming baby, watching her suffer everyday, waking up every half hour to an hour at night, waking her big sister who is 3 in the process, the neglect i do to her sister too as she is so high needs. Shes on antibiotics at the moment too as her skin is infected. She also has several allergies (wheat, milk, oats, banana, kiwi, strawberries, nuts, dustmites, dog fur) Its just making life so stressful. We can never go anywhere as a family, she will start scratching and harm herself, scream and its just an awful experience. Weve tried everything, weve been reffered allergy, derm, dietician. I am having counselling. My other halfs mental health is v bad too, works long hours and then has to have kids as soon as finishes as i have absolutely lost the will to live by that time. We are broken as a family, shouting at eachother, neglecting 3yo, regretting hacing another baby. Ive never felt ao stressed, defeated, depressed and done in my life. I feel like ppl who havent experienced eczema think im being dramatic. I just need this to end and see no light at the end of the tunnel.

Oh ok sorry your little one, and you, are going through this. You said you've had a derm referral? Have you had an appointment with them ? Dermatologist was life changing for my daughter and her ezcema.

I don’t know if this helps, but you are not alone. It is well documented that rates of suicidal ideation for eczema and other severe skin conditions are high. It would not be surprising that caregivers struggle as well.

the good news is that with time, the doctors will very likely come up with a plan that works.

i have had real moments of desperation. Now I follow a careful regimen and give myself a shot every 2 weeks and I’m basically fine.

It doesn't sound ridiculous and you're right, people without experience really don't understand the impact.

Have you seen the dermatologist yet?

As well as the actual stress (crying, pain, disrupted sleep), it's also the emotional pain that our baby isn't 'perfect' (I truly mean that with love and kindness.)
is there anyone you can talk to about how it's making you feel? Physically you can do as much as you can to deal with the eczema (getting medication and specialist help) but you need to deal with your emotional response; get some help in gaining perspective that it's a horrible skin condition but you're doing everything you can to help your baby get better.

Sorry, I've re-read and see you're getting counselling. Hope talking to someone helps. Keep talking on here if it helps too.

Which dermatologist have you seen? Maybe people can recommend an amazing one? Who's the best paediatric dermatologist?
It's not crazy at all. Completely understand

Hi, I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I truly feel your pain as a mother of a baby who had severe eczema and has 11 life threatening food allergies. My mental health was very very bad and I am still on anti depressants. What worked almost immediately for us was something called The Aron Regime. It is a compound cream and you can get it if you book an appointment with a doctor in North London (by Zoom) called Dr Boyden. The Hill Medical centre Northfield House, Northfield Road ,rear of 117 Stamford Hill, London, N16 5RS (020) 8800 5066. It changed our life and we only needed the cream for a few weeks before our baby's eczema was completely under control. Please try it - you will get your life back. Wishing you all the best.