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What does it look like to have mental health issues as a teenager

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ValerieVomit · 08/11/2023 00:23

Because I think I had mental health problems and didn't realise it and nobody else did either.

I still have recurring dreams to this day about my childhood house and specifically the bathroom and toilet. It was an old house built in the 1940s and had a bathroom with just bath and sink and airing cupboard and separate toilet. My dad and older brother would sit reading on the loo and smoke. They didn’t even use an ashtray, they would flick ash on the floor and just leave it there. So going to the toilet that’s what you were confronted with. It made me sick.

The bathroom well I still have regular dreams about being late, trying to have a shower or a bath and the place being filthy and not being able to find clean towels. I was always cleaning it up. My mum must have been so ground down she didn’t care. We had a proper fireplace. I remember my dad smoking by the fire and flicking ash onto the kerbed hearth. It looked terrible. I told him once to get an ashtray or put it in the fire and he blew a gasket. Started mimicking me in a high pitched falsetto voice and swore at me.

This is just a snippet of life. Which was horrible.

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Tortoise81 · 23/11/2023 18:55

It sounds like you were neglected as a child/teen, and it sounds like an awful experience. As for mental health issues, nothing you've said in your post suggests any mental health issues. However, if you had them at the time it doesn't seem surprising that they were missed. And, if you are suffering now, it is probably as a result of such an awful experience x

ValerieVomit · 08/05/2024 15:21

I had a nightmare last night. I dreamed that there was a man called Mike, where I had met him I don't know, but I must have had a date or two with him. He then started getting very clingy and I knew I needed to finish it but I felt guilty. I then asked my friend to meet me to talk about it which she did but she was dressed up like a pantomime dame with pink hair like Marie Antoinette and she had put on a ton of weight, too. I don't know what she said but I felt so guilty about telling Mike that I didn't want to see him any more. I did get a call from my ex yesterday wanting to meet me so that might have done it.

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