Bullied, how do I move past it?

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In my last place of work I was bullied. This was just over 12 years ago and it’s something that has played and replayed in my mind every now and again. There was one particular girl who I found rather nasty and she never hid her nastiness from me. The place I’m working for now occasionally deal with the other office where I was previously and I fear seeing some of the staff there in meetings, etc.
Has anyone been through anything similar? How did you move on? I’m always on edge and feel my confidence is knocked, I’m not the same person I was from the bullying.

If you are in England, contact your local talking therapies service. If the impact of the bullying is social anxiety and you meet the criteria, a course of CBT can address this.

Good luck!

PS. You can move on from this. Things will get better OP.

I was bullied in my last workplace (in academia where bullying is rife and minimal line management). It really affected my confidence and mental health and has spilled out in other ways. I also have to see these people occasionally though thankfully I’m no longer in the same institution. All I can say is that you need to process it and reach a point in your own mind where they no longer have power over you. It’s not going to be pleasant bumping into them, but they no longer have any actual power (ie you’re not answerable to them professionally) so don’t give them any psychological power. If you can arrange things at work so you can minimise contact then all the better. You have my sympathies, workplace bullying is horrible. They were the problem not you. I really hope you can find it in yourself to move on and not allow them to hold you back at work any longer - ultimately this shift needs to come from you.