Supporting a partner with PTSD

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My lovely DD’s lovely DP has PTSD from childhood abuse. The flashbacks have started only recently and he’s in a bad way. How do I support them both?

There isn't anything you can do.

Just be there for her really Is all you can do.what a bloody shame poor guy.

Good to know, thanks!

You can be honest and warm, see if they want to talk about therapy, if either wants to talk to you, you could suggest seeing the GP, finding a trauma informed therapist. Google the latter and perhaps EMDR which is excellent at helping PTSD from childhood trauma.

Have just been going through this myself. Counselling has been really helpful. There is a website www.getselfhelp.co.uk which has a helpsheet on flashbacks. I think just concentrate on supporting your DD though, and avoid having too many expectations of them both at the moment. xx

Thank you both. He has a therapist and I’m paying for every other session, I’m hoping EMDR will be on the cards soon. I message him regularly to be warm and loving, and her too of course (they live far away). I really hope they can find a new normal together, they’re just so lovely ☹️

Thank you for sharing this, it’s helpful to me, but I’m so sorry you are experiencing this. I really hope you will be ok x

If its from childhood abuse there's a chance it could be CPTSD, it's a bit different from PTSD and the therapy pathway for them is a little different. Is your daughter receiving support, as it could be beneficial if she's supporting someone with PTSD/CPTSD. I think all you can do is see what support she has in place and maintain communication with her so she knows she can turn to you if she needs to.